BDSM and Children

Okay this is not what you are probably thinking so just read on.

A BDSM family is very special , and believe it or not can be good for the children in the household. After all children learn everything from there parent , as a matter of fact more so in the first 5 years of there life. It it up to us as parents to set the example early on in there life.

Now I am guessing how this lifestyle can be good for children? Well I am going to cover a few things to shed some light on just what I mean…

While a vanilla family is what we call the norm of things, there are some issues , for instance arguing, yelling at each other, yelling at the kids, just at times out of control. Now this is not everybody, but I believe is true for the most.

A D’s style home is far more different , here is why. A D’s home is structured more so than a vanilla, there is no arguing at anytime. The child in the family notices the smallest of things and they take note to there surroundings.

The child observes total respect between the two, the child takes note to communication between the two. Children pick things up at an early age, as a parent you know this.

If a man and wife spends most of the time yelling at each other, how do you discipline your child for yelling back at you, or is a parent throws things, how do you tell your child not to. It is a vicious circle.

A D’s style home is very structured, everything runs as planned. The child observes love and respect between the two.

When your child visits friends they will take note, on the difference, between the homes and parents.This effects the child in many ways, be it social , or in school. You know and I know that if parents spend the majority of the time arguing , yelling or even fighting, what the effects can be.

On the BDSM side , the children know nothing of the lifestyle and I do not condone this in anyway. At no time should the subject eve come up.

What I am trying to explain is , the child sees how smoothly the family runs. The communication between the two, the love, for each other….

A Dom is in full control, of his actions, his surroundings. He sets the example. He never loses his temper, nor does he yell. He shows total respect at all times, for his wife and the children.

I hope you have gained a greater understanding on hows the D’s lifestyle¬† can be beneficial not just for the children in the home, but as a family….

Vile

8 Responses to “BDSM and Children”

  1. Nicely put as too often BDSM lifestyle and children is often put in a negative light, it nice for it put in a positive tone. Well done.

  2. Hmmm an interesting perspective, but I think perhaps you underestimate the degree to which a ‘vanilla’ couple can be equally loving and mutually respectful, without either one needing to take control. I think there are many variations of good relationships, and we should all strive for our own version of harmony, whilst respecting others…

  3. A well written if self serving piece.

    You posit a NON structured “vanilla” vs a Structured D/s which is of course possible but so is the reverse. Nor does structure in and of itself a good thing. Many structured environments can be detrimental.

    The effect of even accidental exposure to perceived abuse in small children is well documented, This means that one must put the needs of the child ahead of ones own.

    http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/children_witnessing_domestic_violence.html

    Please note, I did not say ABUSE but perceived abuse.. hearing some one in rough BSDM play for a child as no realistic difference that actual abuse.

    • First off Trey thank you for stopping by. Second a child who is raised in a BDSM home knows absolutely nothing, and should never know anything that goes on behind closed doors.

      What I was speaking of is how well a BDSM home is structured, now there are some Vanilla homes that are well structured as well. I am speaking from my experience.
      I am against any form of abuse, more so when it comes to children.
      BDSM has many different levels, I have never met anyone who included children in anything, nor would I condone.
      My ex who was vanilla we were married for nine years and never had an argument, our son and hers as well, never knew what our bills were or how much we made. In nine years we never raised our voice to each other.
      In a Bdsm home what I was speaking about the child sees a well structured home, the child see’s total respect between two adults. The child see;s how a home should be ran.
      I am not speaking like it is a boot camp, but the child see’s the woman should always come first.
      No physical abuse, no verbal abuse.
      The kink is never shared and should never be.
      It is a shame that a child should have to witness any type of abuse or be abused.
      In life in general there is no reason for two adults to argue, and a man should never lay a hand on his partner that is uncalled for.
      Maybe I cleared somethings up about my post.
      Please feel free to continue.

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