So he’s not Dominant She’s Submissive

Posted by vile62 on April 13, 2012 in BDSM

This is a situation that happens all to often, more so with women than men. A woman discovers later in life she is submissive, a number of things bring this on. In most cases the female was abused at a young age, raped or even molested, I said most of the time just from my experience

These are sad things that take place, and can be very destructive., if not with the right partner, or proper counseling. Some come to terms with what has happened, some fake it.

At times being submissive comes right out at an early age, and they learn to cope with everything that has happened, again this is not always the case.

The main problem is at an older age when this feeling finely comes out, and the female discovers who they are they begin to look up information, talking to others and finely try to meet a dominant.

Here is the problem, the search usually does not take that long because they jump at the first dominant,now is he real or just a predator. Out of 100 dominants you speak with maybe 5 or 10 are real.the ones who are not real are like a rattlesnake waiting to strike. He has one thing on his mind and one thing only the PUSSY that’s it. He does not care about you, your feelings, he does not want to hear what happened as a child. It may last a week a month, maybe six months.

If you are talking to a prospective Dominant, do not be afraid to ask for references. Is he active in the local community, does he attend events. What social sites is he on. Here is the killer, why cant I come over to your house? Bam he is married, hitched, girlfriend, none of which give head but you do.

Be careful I mentor 2 right now a submissive and a slave, the slave has been raped 8 times count 8.because her judgement was impaired, craving affection. Did you see the word RAPED. Now your not going to go to the police, and tell them. Why not? Well are you going to tell them about your lifestyle most will not.. By the way I want to stress this again, a Mentor does not fuck with who he is mentoring. Never if he tries he is not real…. Just be careful.

Now I have been in the lifestyle for some 20 years, I have a lot of friends in the lifestyle some really like me, more hate me. I guess because I speak my mind, if you don’t like me i will sleep tonight.

I have been in 5 long term relationships, a long term relationship to my brother is a 3 day weekend.

The longest was 7 yrs, and the bad thing is no one will ever replace her, she could walk on water, but here is what I am getting at.

A male just cannot wake up monday morning and say I am a Dominant, I want a submissive, Because let me tell you something 20 years and I am still learning.

Now if the newly found dom, wants to connect with another dominant, and is willing to spends months or longer so he can be mentored then maybe just maybe it could happen, I doubt it very seriously.

I think most submissive women or slaves would agree being a dominant is not easy, it is like the whole world is on his shoulders. He is in control of himself his sub, his world, everything. A dominant really has no one to talk to about problems, if you talk to another dom, you might as well be talking to Anderson Cooper on CNN because it is going to be the headline news with in the community.



3 Responses to “So he’s not Dominant She’s Submissive”

  1. I’m interested in the connection you’ve made here between a woman realizing she’s submissive and a past experience of being raped. When you say that a woman discovers, later in life, that she is submissive and that often times being raped early in life is one of those things…what do you mean? Are you suggesting that being raped somehow has led to submissive feelings or that being raped has led to the realization of these feelings?

    • Thank you for stopping by. Over the years I have met hundreds of subs and slaves. Most had one or more things in common.
      One suffered from depression of some kind , most of the time sever and most had been raped or molested at a young age.
      This is just my observation and the notes I have taken over a span of 25 years or so.
      What is the trigger ? I am not sure it just seems funny that so many would have much of the same in common.

      • Thank you for welcoming my comment. It is a very interesting observation so many have these particular issues in common, though I don’t know what hypothesis to make from this either. Either way, I do agree that it’s worthy of some recognition and thought. I have been trying to work through new thoughts and feelings and I’ve found your blogs helpful and interesting, both.

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