When BDSM is Abuse

 

Posted by vile62 on March 21, 2012 in Abuse, BDSM, Domination, Mental Abuse, Physical Abuse, Submission
  1. I had an interesting discussion with a female the other day where I tried to explain the difference between abuse and BDSM. The hard part with a topic like that is that I am into BDSM and it becomes natural to me to see a distinct difference between the two. That also makes it a bit harder to communicate the differences and why BDSM has nothing to do with real abuse.The most important thing that differs BDSM from real and destructive abuse is the consent. All BDSM is built upon trust , consent, and communication. Real abuse doesn’t include consent. Many females fall prey to abuse, mainly because they are in a hurry to find the one, their soul mate if you will. Willing to go along with just about anything to prove who they are. There are men who prey on these types of women, this is abuse.
  2.  The other big difference is what I would like to describe as a theft, the fact that your powers are stolen from you by the abuser in real abuse. In BDSM the submissive hand over the powers to the dominant, voluntarily and with consent. The dominant then treats that with respect and care.

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