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Butt Plugs , Submission And Other Shit

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Anal Plug, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Rules, butt plug, Dominant, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Humiliation, Master, No Panties, Protocol, Protocol public, Rules, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , on July 1, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

It is not hard to bring submission out, as a matter of fact it is really pretty easy, and it can be done with out any abuse , a lot of kink and fun.

Although I have not done it yet Rope Bras are very nice and easily concealed with the right shirt or blouse. I was told by a slave once it made her feel vulnerable, to know she had a rope bra on. There are videos on Youtube that will help you with the process, or just have at it and try out your imagination…. Take her out to dinner, to a movie, a walk down town…

Rope panties work well, with a nice dress on, does not have to be tight, but the feeling of being bound while out in public. The same with the rope Bra it is the thought of being bound.

Also something else I have yet to do but is high on my bucket list, is the remote controlled butterfly vibrator. Yes it can be worn in public, or even over at your in laws house, { evil grin}  You the male has full control. Yea out eating at outback steak house, and you turn it on, and you continue talking like nothing is going on.

My favorite is the Butt plug, I do not make Arianna wear hers as much as I should, but then again things are going to change up a little. A very submissive feeling, even more so if the Dominant lubes it up and inserts it himself, a very loose dress works just fine, panties or no panties. Yea they will complain about getting wet just put a towel on their seat while your driving. I would think that thing would need to air out at times anyway.

Feeding your Slave or Submissive, while you sit at the table, your property is on the floor next to you, you may provide a fork, but it is not needed. The feeling of being equal goes away pretty fast.

Corner time, I seldom spank as a form of punishment, a Slave such as Arianna would easily become confused. Being able to separate play from punishment, I am also sure she is not the only one who feels the same.. To punish should be a very serious offense, not because the sub forgot to send pics, come on dude really? Or maybe she got busy at work and forgot to text. As far as rules 20 max at times that number may even be lower, depending on what type of structure your provide, what type of protocols, and rituals….Most Rituals and Protocols go hand in hand. So my way of thinking when it comes to punishing is Corner time, and being exposed. You know if a rule is broken they feel bad enough anyway, but to have to stand in a corner exposed and thinking about what they did wrong, I believe is way more effective than spanking.

Public scolding in a private setting. This form of punishment can be very effective but it depends on how well your submissive handles humiliation. In public in a private setting this form of punishment can be very effective, by a public setting take a walk down beside railroad tracks, stop and instruct to strip, and kneel.  I do have mixed feelings about this form of punishment but I have done it before, as well as outdoor bondage.

Just a few more rants…

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The Butterfly can be worn in public, and with a remote can be a lot of fun.

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Corner time being exposed is a very good form of punishment..

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The Dom inserting the butt plug before going out, can make her feel very submissive.
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Butt plug worn out in public no panties. You can always put your hand on her ass and give it a little push..

The rope bra is very effective as well and I think its erotic.
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The rope bra minus the ball gag, you would not believe how well hidden it is. even for women with big breast…..

The public scolding is a very effect way to punish, it is not that I wont spank, but I use spanking for very serious infractions.
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I Love Showing Arianna Off

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, high heels, Karaoke, Mini Skirts, No Panties, pussy, rimming, Showing off your slave, Six inch Heels, slave, sucking cock on January 16, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am sure every Master feels the same way about their Slave. We are all proud of what we have accomplished when it comes to training. Well at least when it comes to me and my way of thinking.

When out at local events I love the way Arianna carrier herself. She is always dressed to a 10 and no less. The protocols she follows to a T. Asking permission before she speaks, while other Slaves just interrupt to make a statement or to voice their opinions.

Every time we show up someplace there are comments on how well she looks, how beautiful she is. Yes I do take pride in my property.

Now on the other hand Arianna likes to show off as well, although she may not admit it. Like going out to a bar or something, she enjoys Karaoke and she really sounds good, but the way she slowly struts up to the stage and I look around and everyone is looking at her, I am thinking yea that’s my bitch. We went to a Bar last month thinking they may have Karaoke , it turns out they did not that night, but it was pretty dead maybe 25 or 30 people. It was quite no music so Arianna wanted to play a few songs on the juke box, as she got up and walked over you could hear a pin drop. She had left her purse in the car and had to go out to get it, when she was walking back in these two old guys were walking out and one said Lord girl, and I just grinned.

As men we all talk that is no secret but I talk more while out with others in the same lifestyle, I really have nothing in common with others outside of my world of M’s. Most guys want to hit the bar after work, I want to come home and spend all my time with my Slave.

Standing outside while at the MasT we take a break at times if the topic runs over the time, we are talking and Master M goes man I do not know how you pulled off such a Slave, she is fucking hot. Yea I know but let me tell you some of her better qualities. When I start to explain the way she gives head, how much attention she puts in to what she is doing, this dude is just staring at me, Or how much she enjoys rimming.

Most of the time Arianna wears a very short skirt, she has legs to kill for, and her ass is even better, she also wears six inch heels, that really shows off her legs. I have never made her go panty less as of yet but I have been asked several times if she has anything on under her skirt, and I just grin and say Does she? I think the next time out I will have her take her panties off prior to going in.

We put a lot of work in our training process, so why not show off what you have done, maybe the word show off is not correct, but when others notice how the Slave carries there self and comments about it. It does make me feel good. Yes and maybe a little ego pops out.

I can proudly sit back and say yes I own her, she is mine, you can look but you cannot touch. It is all mine.

I remember about 7 months ago we were at a business a friend of mine owns and we were all three talking and he was talking about his girls ass and how good it looked. So I said let me show you what a real ass looks like I told Arianna to turn around and drop her jeans, that shut him up, not another word was said. The same when Master R came over to the house, he was talking about his slaves pussy, so I lifted Ariannas gown and said you mean like this.

I love showing off my slave , maybe its wrong but I am proud of my property.

I will be posting pics of Arianna on Facebook here pretty soon, sorry no nudes but maybe close. Thinking maybe some bondage pics or something. She brought it up not long ago.

Much love to everyone, and I want to thank each and everyone of you who drop in, comment or no comment. Maybe just Maybe I can make some kind of change in your life when it comes to safety.

Vile

Today I Am Slave Vile

Posted in abuse, Adrenaline, anticipation, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, being used, chat room, Collar, Collarme.com, communication, Consensual, Dominants, Fake Dominants, No Panties, predators, Rules, slave, Submission, sucking cock, Training Collar, Trust on December 22, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

So I have been looking for a new master for a few months, I joined collarme.com because well that just seems like the place. There are so many Masters to choose from. I know I am new and I am inexperienced but surely I will find someone who will except me.

So I made a profile, and within 24 hours I have received over 250 emails, wow I cannot believe the response I have gotten. Then I notice there are three who live relatively close to me. So after a little thinking I decided to write each one and see how things go

The next morning I get three reply’s all giving me their Yahoo messenger so I log in and I add each name. Now I am feeling excited because I really do not know what to expect.

So after a little hesitation I send my first Message, Hello? I wait and wait, then finely that would be Master, how are you doing today?

I am doing well thank you hmmm Master.

So what are you looking for ? I am looking for a Master someone who can teach me about BDSM.

I only saw the one pic on your profile do you have any more ? Yes I can send through messenger if you would like. Yes send them now. There I sent four that is all I have at the moment.

Very pretty I love your eyes. I am looking for a Slave someone I can collar, but I really need to see more of you.

More of me ? Yes more you sent pics but there were no full body pics, I want to see all of you, do you have a cam? Yes I do, would you like to see me? Yes now, I will let you know upfront I am a very strict Master, and I have no problems punishing my slave.

What is your favorite position if your being fucked? Well I love it doggy style. I really hate being on top because it makes me feel like I am in control. Do you like oral sex? Yes. Do you swallow? I have but it is not my favorite. Well I expect my slave to swallow. Do you like anal sex? It is okay Ive done it once it hurt a little. I love anal sex and I take it when ever I want. Where is your cam?

How many slaves do you own now? I am single as of now so I am really looking. What kind of work do you do? I am in between jobs but I can afford to take my time. So turn your cam on.

So you spend a day chatting, you send pics, you get naked on cam for what you hope to be your new Master, you just open yourself wide open. He knows everything about you, things you have not even told your closest friends.

Now the next day your going to meet.

What would you like for me to wear? How short is your shortest skirt ? Well I really do not own a short skirt, and I cannot afford to by one. Okay wear the shortest dress you have and your not allowed to wear any panties, understood. Why no panties I really don’t feel comfortable not wearing any? Because I am the Dom, and you are suppose to please me.

So where would you like to meet? I know where this park is, it is kinda private we could really talk. I would like to meet someplace in public if that is okay like maybe a restaurant? 

So I show up about a half hour early waiting and waiting, then I finely see him walk through the door, and I am thinking really? OMG what have I gotten myself into.

So this guy sits down I get this big know in my stomach and he is just starring at me. I have questions I want to ask but I am not sure how to go about it. I really don’t want to make him mad.

Did you wear panties ? I think for a second and I say no I did not. Let me see lift up your dress. So I hesitate then I slowly lift up my dress exposing myself right there in front of everyone.

So John I have a few questions to ask? That would be Master. Hmm okay Master I had a few questions I would like to ask. Sure you can ask anything. How long have you been in the lifestyle? I have been a Master for 20 plus years.

Okay what makes you a Dominant? I like being in control, giving orders and I punish when it is needed. Okay well as I said I am not really into pain. That is okay I can train you to like pain not a problem. How many slave have you owned? I have owned hmmm lets see 9 I have owned 9 slaves. Okay would it be possible is I spoke to one of them or maybe emailed you know as a reference. There is no need for that I have already told you everything about me. I have not been in contact with any of them for a long time. You can trust me.

Well look it is getting late, we should get a room so we can start your training today? My training? Yes I want to see how well you suck cock, that is very important to me. I want to show you the way I like it.

Sucking cock is part of training? Look what is up with all these questions are you a slave or not? Are you looking for a master or not> Your lucky I even wanted to meet you.

Look I brought this training collar, you can put it on. So I will own you now. But we just met is this how it works? It is how I work, remember I am the master you are the slave.

Umm okay well are you active in the local BDSM community? Nah I don’t believe in showing off or proving anything to people I know who I am. Well do you know any other Masters? Sure I do. Would it be possible to meet your friends? There is no need I am a very private person.

Come on lets start your training.

Now many of you have been through the same scenario, many of you have heard the same words. The only difference is, you either were scared to ask any questions, or you did not know you should ask questions. 

The Dominant who insisted on being called Master gave you no real answers, he spent more time beating around the bush. He had one thing on his mind and that was getting his cock sucked, and chances are he would want you to pay half of the room or he may even want you to pay for all of it.

When meeting someone new. Do not ever let someone tell you what to wear. You wear what you feel safe in. Never let anyone demand you call them Master, nor do you let anyone offer you a collar on the first meeting. Remember a collar is earned.

You should never put yourself in any type of danger. Asking you to meet at a park is the first bad sign. Your going someplace wear a dress and no panties.

Ask questions take a list with you. When you ask look into his eyes, the eyes tell all, his hands the way he moves his fingers when he is being confronted. References are very important, are you just going to take some guys words you met on an adult dating site, the one with 20 years experience. Really are you.

Maybe go to a motel and get your ass beat, a black eye, a busted lip or worse.

Everyone of you be it a submissive or slave you have so much to offer, you have so much to give. Do not let someone take advantage of you, take what you are wanting to give, use you then toss you aside.

Be careful and play safe. Hey if you have something to prove and he is able to answer all your questions and you feel safe, have at it, but just be sure.

Remember your safe call which I did not do. Take a picture of his tag send it to a friend. Go the extra mile pay for a back ground check about 20 bucks. Call several times during your meeting. Have your friend call the restaurant so the waiter can give you a message. Let the new Dom know whats going on. If he is okay he will see nothing wrong with it. Always have his first and last name. You all have met Doms and did not know there last name.

Finely get there home address, where they work, and let it be known you will want to stop by his house to visit. If he acts surprised and starts to makes excuses then the conversation should be over. Simply get up and walk out no questions and no answers needed.

You do not need to end up someplace as a Jane Doe. nor does your family.

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Vile

Your Life Is Going To Change , You Also Have To Train Yourself

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, Adapt, anal sex, anger, Argue, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, Being fucked, being used, Change, chat room, communication, fucking, kinky, No Panties, oral, oral sex, Patience, Protocol, Protocol public, Rules, Safe and Sane, Security, Self-Discipline, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, TPE, you have to train yourself on December 20, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Your the new Submissive or maybe your a slave or think your one. You are in for a huge shock, kinda like culture shock. I remember the first time I went out into a small town while I was stationed in Korea. I was shocked at the way people lived.  The one thing I did notice though is how happy people were, how family orientated people were, how family’s and friends helped each other. The culture shock took sometime for me to get use to, but only when I realized I was really no different than they were. Okay except for my kink. Even at the age of 17 I was kinky and going back I was at even a younger age.

Your a Submissive , maybe your a Slave or you think you are one of the other. Depending on the Dom you end up with could make a world of difference.

The first real thing that will hit you right in the face is your freedom. Your freedom to move about, go as you please. The freedom to make decisions. In some cases you may even lose some of your vanilla friends.

Again depending on your Dom you will now have rules to follow, and there will be consequences for not following your new rules. As an adult you will now be punished, and you will except willingly with no questions. You will have certain protocols to follow even if your Dominant does not call them protocols. Being told how to act in public, dress, speak these are all protocols.

Your whole life is going to be turned inside out. You have read information on the net, you have been in chat rooms, you have joined groups, talked to others who appear to be like you. Deep inside we may have some of the same ideas but in the end we are all different. What we expect out of our new found lifestyle.

Maybe you grew up in a nice vanilla home, a nice easy going christian home, with strong family values. The only sex you ever knew was missionary. You had family get together’s, maybe you were popular in school, the good girl next door.

So maybe you always felt a little different inside, you could not pin point it, but you had this weird feeling inside, feelings you could not figure out or how to put them into place.

Maybe you had thoughts deep sexual thoughts of just being taken and used for someone’s pleasure, maybe being kidnapped , tied down, being spanked, but in no way could you ever share these feelings. At this point in your life these were just fantasies.

Now your a grown woman as young as 18 as old as 50 or 60, we can never control our feelings, we can never really control who we fall in love with it just happens. Now your at the age where you can begin to try and figure things out. Because if you can figure it out you will have this sense of pure freedom. Your own little secret. Your dirty thoughts can now come to life.

Depending on the Dom you meet things can go well or things can be a total disaster. A total Disaster if you meet someone who just wants a piece of ass and tosses you to the side. Maybe he beat you black and blue, but you cannot tell anyone. You should shrug it off and keep on going until you find the one.

You are the one who has to adapt to the way your owner wants you, you have to adapt to his needs his wants. He does not adapt to your ways.

So you found him, the one who you are going to give yourself completely. You both just clock, you both have the deep feeling of truly needing each other. This also happens to those who are married younger or older something just clicks inside, now instead of husband and wife they are now Master and Slave.It does happen to new couples as well as older.

Now the vanilla girl has found her new Dominant, her new Master, her new Owner, this is where you life will change and change really big.

You were use to guys begging you for a little pussy, most of the guys you dated really got off if you just gave them a hand job in the front seat of his dads car, maybe some head, but you were use to the begging, men kissed your ass to get between your legs. You had all the control, either you would spread or he would end up going home and jacking off that night, but you girl were in full control.

Now the coin is flipped, you are no longer in control, you now have rules to follow, told what to wear, and when. In most cases your panties are now a thing of the past. You are told to be fresh at all times , freshly shaved, your hair, what makeup to wear if any.

You are now for someones pleasure, your body and mind, and in most cases unless your a bedroom submissive only, your body is not for just pure pleasure.

Now when you are told to get on your knees and suck cock you will do so willingly, no questions asked. when you are told to spread and you get your brains fucked out you will do with out question and many times it is all about your Master, your Owner. Your time to cum will come when he feels like letting you.

Those nice little summer dresses you once wore out that went to the knees are now all but gone. Now your told how to dress. Now your dressing more like a little whore, yea it takes sometime to get use to, but I know in my eyes I enjoy showing my slave off. I love it when guys look and I know they are thinking about fucking her. You can look but you cannot touch.

Your skirts are going to get shorter, your shorts, the way you dress will now change for ever. In some cases the way you walk, the way you talk, act while out with your new owner. You will speak when spoken to when out, or like me most of the time I allow Arianna to speak openly, but I have the control to make her speechless if I so choose.

Culture shock will hit you hard, now you have to think real deep. Is this the life I truly want. Do I want to give up this much control. Do I just want to be used,

What do you get in return. You get the life you have always dreamed of. Someone being in full control, someone who truly cares about you, someone who will communicate with you, allows you to share your thoughts and feelings. Someone who takes an interest in you, someone who will be there when no one else would. Someone who will spend hours holding you, and you knowing everything will be alright. The best thing is you do not have to worry about anything because everything is in your owners hands

So the next time your on your knees or on your back, you think about everything you get in return, you will see a very different prospective, more so your feeling will change. You will grow to have the need to be used, in anyway your owner sees fit.

The main thing is your owner keeping his word, walking the walk and talking the talk.

It can be a very rewarding life, long lasting. A life many only dream of having but can never take that to their spouse in fear of being rejected.

Now we as Dominants, Master and Owners we are looking for someone we can train, someone we can mold to fit our needs and wants. We are looking for the perfect one, who will make us complete.

Your probably asking where does the training myself come into play? How can I possibly train myself when my Owner is suppose to be the one who trains me.

Training yourself is a mindset , instead of blurting out comments about how you feel, you now have to think before speaking. You can speak your mind but now you have to say things in a very polite way. You have to learn to control any anger issues you may have. If you have any anger issues and the Dominant cannot work through them, he will walk away, and walk away with out any hesitation. If you had or have any Drama you have to train yourself to control it, again if the Dominant cannot work his way though something he will walk away.

You will have to train your mind when it comes to being used be it sucking cock, or just spreading you will have to change your feelings your thoughts, most of all you have to come to realize you are for someones pleasure. This is you training your mind, training the way you think , the way you act.

Your Dominant cannot do it all you are going to have to step in and be willing to let him take full control over you, and be happy doing so. You will have to crave his touch, and be willing to please at the snap of a finger. Your Dominant now comes first without question, no questions asked.

You are there for him and only him.

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Vile

Dominance Through Intimidation

Posted in abuse, bdsm, Dating, Discipline, Dominance, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominants, dress, Mini Skirts, No Panties, skirt no panties, slave, submissive, sucking cock on December 5, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

You have been chatting online for sometime , now it is time to meet. What is the shortest skirt you own ? Do you ever go out without wearing panties ? Do you ever go out without a Bra on ? Do you shave ? Do you swallow ? Can you deep throat ? Do you like anal sex ? These are all questions you have heard from prospective Dominants, Masters , Owners. You know how I know ? Because I have asked the same questions.

Most of you had to go out and buy a short enough skirt for the big date the first meeting, because you did not own one that was mid-thigh or higher. A skirt that short is something you would never wear just for the sake of going out, but tonight you will and without panties. Tonight you will do what your told and you do not even have a clue that you will.

Your standing in front of the mirror doing your makeup, your hair everything has to be perfect. You are thinking of everything you have talked about and what you have shared , things that were very personal. You have never shared such things before but this time it is and was different.

Your driving your car to a local restaurant , and you look down and your pussy is almost showing, no panties , you can feel the sweat between your legs, the palms of your hands are sweating, you are so nervous , because this could be the one. The Master you have always been looking for.

Why is it so important that you wear a skirt so short and without panties, after all you are just meeting to see if you both click. Maybe the two of you can build a relationship.

You  pull into the parking lot of the restaurant he picked out, you get out of the car and he greets you. You get this knot in your stomach. He introduces himself shakes your hand and turns around and starts to walk towards the door and you follow. Once inside you both sit down, and now your thinking about what is okay to orders, your thinking maybe a salad, very simple.

You look at him and his eyes are looking right through you, and you ask what is wrong ? Nothing I am just admiring your beauty. You are nervous , your shaking inside, and yes you are intimidated. Is it because of the first meeting, or because he could be your future Master.

He talks about what he expects, his rules, his work how busy he is, but he will make time for you. I will tell you when it is okay to call, you can text me, or email.  His questions can get pretty personal, mostly sexual. You are going through an interview process.  He spends most of the time just looking at you, and he will ask what you are wearing under the skirt you say nothing as he glances down you spread a little.

After dinner and your both walking out the Dominant says we should begin your training now. You may get in his car and blow him or he will want to get a room.

Intimidation is a powerful tool, and it is a tool that works and it works well. If you are not prepared or your not thinking straight you will fall victim every time.

After is the waiting game, will he call or text ? Did you make a good impression ? Were you on your best behavior ? All these questions are running through your mind.

Now you may enjoy dressing up, you may like pleasing, you may have a need to show your submission, but there is a right way and a wrong way. If you are vanilla would you have done the same thing? I would think not.

Maybe you like sucking cock on the first date, or going to a motel on your first date. If that is you and you feel you have to do so, then so be it. It does not make you bad. Submission is a need, and as humans we are looking for things in life. One would be acceptance , two a companion, three to be loved.. Just do not let anyone take advantage of you.

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Noun 1. intimidation - the act of intimidating a weaker person to make them do somethingintimidation – the act of intimidating a weaker person to make them do something

aggression – deliberately unfriendly behavior
frightening, terrorisation, terrorization – the act of inspiring with fear
2. intimidation – the feeling of discouragement in the face of someone’s superior fame or wealth or status etc.

discouragement, disheartenment, dismay – the feeling of despair in the face of obstacles
3. intimidation – the feeling of being intimidated; being made to feel afraid or timid

fear, fearfulness, fright – an emotion experienced in anticipation of some specific pain or danger (usually accompanied by a desire to flee or fight)
4. intimidation – a communication that makes you afraid to try something

discouragement – the expression of opposition and disapproval

 

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Vile

Let Me Tell You Ladies Something

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Advice, anger, Annoyed, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, betrayed, blow job, Collar, Collars, communication, Consensual, control, controlling, Conversation, Dating, Deception, Dominants, emotional, Fake Dominants, fucking, Gagged, Giving Head, Humiliation, inhibitions, Lie, Master, Meeting, Mini Skirts, No Inhibitions, No Panties, non-consensual, pussy, Respect, Safe, Safe and Sane, slave, Submission, submissive, submissive or slave has rights, sucking cock, sucking dick on November 24, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Warning Signs Of A Fake Dominant.

I am not or was not just speaking out of my ass, I have been there. I am not saying I was a fake, but I learned at a very young age how to manipulate the system, meaning how to get into a submissive’s head. That is what it is all about to begin with the Dominant being able to get into ones head. If he cannot do that he cannot control. It is you the submissive who allows this.

Yes I am guilty of a lot of messed up things. The hunt was exciting, the kill was a total rush. I was not looking for love I had one thing on my mind and that was getting my cock sucked and pussy nothing more. As I grew older it was not until my early 30’s I realized I wanted more. I had to find the one. It was then I found out the hunt was not as easy because this time I had a goal. I needed more so I had to be more selective in my search. I had three long term relationships all three were slaves. One after almost seven years her mother grew ill and she moved back to Korea. the second was my fault because I lost control, because I let my feelings get in the way. Now the love of my life Arianna

Everything I am going to tell you is the truth I have nothing to gain from misleading you

I am speaking as a man from past experience’s . So now what I am trying to do is make things right, give good valuable advice, if you listen you listen if you don’t well I tried.

Beware of the closet Dom, he is ego driven, nothing more. He will lead you down a path of total destruction and never look back, and when he is done he will wash his hands and move on.

BDSM is not about SEX. BDSM is not about SUCKING COCK or Laying on your back. BDSM is a relationship where the two form a bond that cannot be broken, BDSM is about communication and open communication. You as a submissive should be able to express your feelings with out being judged or talked down to.

So when first meeting you only give out information you think you need to, nothing to private, no problems, if you suffer from depression or anything else that should not be brought up, for sometime. This is ammunition that can and will be used against you. This is how a closet Dom gets in your head he preys on your problems. He will tell you trust me I will make everything alright. I can and want to help you. I am here for you.  Listen because if you think this has happened to you before.

What makes one a Dominant ? What makes one a Master ? these are questions you should ask. If you think of a question then ask, do not be afraid to ask in fear of ruining a date, because if you do not ask he will not volunteer any information.

You need to have a plan put in place a list of questions, and make sure all questions are answered. If he seems like he is getting a little agitated then something is wrong. You the submissive is conducting the interview.

If you did not fuck on your first date, why would you think you would on the first meeting with a potential Dom. To prove your submissive ? Fucking or sucking cock on the first date does not prove anything . At this point he is already halfway through the hunt.

A huge red flag if the Dominant talks about a collar on the first meeting. In my eyes it really takes about six to eight months before someone should ever consider offering a collar. A collar is earned , a collar is just not giving out. Would you marry a man on your first date? I would not think so. If not why would you just be willing to hand over complete control of your life ?

Passwords is another huge flag. Although I do have access to Arianna’s phone I to this day have none of her passwords. Why is this, for one I am not ego driven, and two I trust her. It is not to say that one day I may have her log into her email , because I have that right and she knows it. Your passwords are just that yours. Even in a D’s or M’s relationship we still need some privacy. If he gets angry because you do not wish to share, then just walk away.

You have to be best friends, you have to enjoy being around each other. Going out and doing things together, laughing and joking. You cannot be Master and Slave 24/7 it just does not happen that way, although you are always in that frame of mind.

If you find out your spending more time on your knees and in the sitting position then guess what ? You have been had, you are just another victim another notch in his belt.

We all want the same thing out of life. A partner we can depend on, someone we can let all of out inhibitions flow away. We want to be able to share everything,but more so we want to know we are loved.

You do not have to spread your legs to prove your submission, you do not have to suck cock to prove your submission. You do not have to clean his house to prove your submission. You prove your submission by being who you are.

To allow someone to take you to a motel on the first meeting, that is just insane. We are human not cats we only have one life and to give that life up to try and prove your submissive is just plain crazy.

If you get with a Dom who is not experienced and he is into impact play you can really get fucked up. Even rope bondage you can get hurt if your not tied correctly. You can hurt muscles and damage tendons that is a fact. Impact play if you can lose a kidney if you are hit to high. Your tail bone can be broken. You can get hurt, and your not going to tell anyone how it happen due to the humiliation.

I said this yesterday once you are tied down spread eagle, blindfolded and gagged you are fair game. He can do anything to you he wants, and you will get hurt, or worse. Do not play with your life, you have nothing to prove.

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You as a submissive or slave has rights, you not only have to agree to a Doms terms but he has to agree to yours as well. You do not have to submit until the Dom has agreed to your terms and your rules.

Number one, you should know where he works. You should have his phone number and have the abilty to call when ever you have the need . You should have the ability to text when you have the need and expect a reply in a timely manner. A timely manner is not the next day. You should have his address to where he lives and the ability to see him when you have the need. He should be willing to introduce you to his friends and co-workers. That is just the tip of the iceberg.

Do not ever let a Dom tell you what you are going to wear on the first meeting. Most women would not feel comfortable wearing a short skirt with no panties meeting a total stranger

Being A Slave Is Hard Or Is It ?

Posted in 24/7, A Masters Creed, abuse, Acceptance, Advice, anger, Argue, Arianna, Ass, ass fucking, bdsm, BDSM Safety, Bipolar, Bond, Breaking Rules, communication, Conform, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Conversation, Depressed, Depression, Discipline, Dominants, dress, emotional, ethics, Fear, Giving Head, Health, Honesty, inhibitions, Lie, Lies, Master, men begging, Molding, molding your slave, No Inhibitions, No Panties, No Rights, oral, oral sex, Patience, Private Protocol, problems, Protocol, Protocol public, punish, Punishment, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, Scared, serve, sex, slave, Spanking, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick, Task, Total Slavery, TPE on September 25, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Those who wake with an unknown feeling, a feeling of not being complete, they are not sure where these feelings arrived from or where their thoughts came from. They begin to do a lot of research in hopes of finding answers. Then they stumble across a BDSM site or erotic stories, and things become more clearer.

Then the search Dominant after Dominant until they find the right fit , the right connection, or after being played a couple of times.

I would imagine that giving up 100% of freedom could be a scary thought. Being told what to do, how to act, how to dress, how to speak, what to eat or cook, when to bath, when to go to bed, and then being punished for breaking a rule.

To go from your boyfriend begging for sex or begging to get his dick sucked, to someone just telling you to spread, or get on your knees. Maybe anal sex was off limits now there is no choice, you do it because your now owned.

These are big changes, these are huge changes.  These are changes you never would of even thought off until a year ago, or maybe they have been thoughts for a long time but you had no idea on how to put things into place.

It is not that the changes are difficult, scary yes difficult no. It is how you are brought through these changes, what actions are taking to get you to the point of where you need to be. I can tell you it is probably harder if not almost impossible if you know you are not truly cared for. Eh it works for a short period of time, but when reality hits you and you discover this dude is a piece of shit, you pack up move on and begin your search again, and maybe again, and again until you get it right.

Two key words come to mind, resistance and consistency. Almost every Slave will put some or a lot of resistance when it comes to submitting. It is not that they do not want to, they are scared and they have every right to be.

Consistency or being consistent this is where most Dominants fail. Why is this ? Because once in a relationship be it a D’s or M’s WOW this is fucking work, I actually have to put forth an effort if this is going to work. Keeping your cool staying calm, keeping your word, showing that you care, you listen, and most of all you communicate. If you as a Dominant miss any of these steps you will fail, and it is no ones fault except yours.

I have seen this time and time again, when it happens it is always the Bitches fault, yea she was a bad submissive, or a bad slave she would not listen or follow rules. Just listen to that last statement. Who’s fault is that now? The blame always goes on the Bitch. No it could never be me I am the almighty Master. It was not long ago I told a Dom he was a piece of shit and he should rethink his place within the lifestyle. We had a couple over for dinner not long ago when they left I told Arianna what the out come of their relationship would be, sure enough they are no longer together.

Be it a Submissive or Slave, we have to be able to get into their heads, we have to know what makes them think, their thought process, and I can tell you if your not true or you do not care it will not happen. Just look at the time you have wasted just because you wanted some pussy.

Resistance equals consistent one giving equals one caring, you cannot just take or demand. You as the Dominant has to earn every step you take. Respect you have to earn it is not something we can demand.

Most who are submissive or a slave are on some type of medication, why is this? I do not have a fucking clue, most who are a Submissive or Slave suffers some type of depression maybe Bi-Polar? Why is this again I do not have a fucking clue.  So we as Dominants cannot just step in balls to the wall, we have to put a plan together because we do not want to bring any harm to ours. Yea okay I look over some things nothing major but I do not just sit around hoping Arianna will break a rule, as a matter of fact she will do everything in her power not to break a rule. I set that Ass on fire one time and that is all it took.

We can never figure out why someone is depressed if you try your just wasting time. So instead we work with them, we try to somewhat understand but we will never fully. Go to doctors appointments with them study their medication. Most of all we do not want to push them over the cliff. I had a counselor tell me not long ago that she agreed with our lifestyle, and the way our home was ran was beneficial  to Arianna, and almost a year it has worked well, we have had a few ups and downs but more ups I can assure you.

Starting a new relationship the Submissive / Slave has a wall in place. What we have to do is take it down one brick at a time, while this is on going we are still hitting this resistance button , the reason that button is still there is the lack of trust. While most would like trust is not built over night. So again the same words, Consistency or being consistent this is where most Dominants fail. Why is this ? Because once in a relationship be it a D’s or M’s WOW this is fucking work, I actually have to put forth an effort if this is going to work. Keeping your cool staying calm, keeping your word, showing that you care, you listen, and most of all you communicate. If you as a Dominant miss any of these steps you will fail, and it is no ones fault except yours.

If you cannot control your Submissive or Slave Don’t put the blame on them, it was not them who failed it was us who failed them. We gave them false statements, we led them to believe something that was not true.

If you fail at communication, it is pretty much over. Most of the time a Slave will not volunteer and information, so we have to be willing to spend the time to communicate, if you really care this comes natural. Set aside 15 minutes a day so you can just sit and talk. Hold conversation over dinner, while driving. Communication is the main key, if your going to wait for them to spill their guts guess what? It will never happen.

There has to be an astronomical amount of fear when a Slave enters a relationship, they have no idea what to expect, more so if it is their first relationship. That is why you need a plan , and you need a back up plan, and another back up plan.

I was lucky when I met Arianna the resistance level was almost zero, even so I knew I had to stay consistent. The first ninety days is the tell , tell of everything. It will tell the slave if they are truly a slave and it will tell the slave if the Dominant is real.

Asking to sit at the Dinner table, not taking a bite of food before I do. Kneeling at the door when I return from work. anticipating my needs, kneeling in the bathroom while I shower, it goes on and on, but again the key word is consistency.

Rules some just fucking kill me, Rule one you must worship my cock. Rule 2 you must masturbate every night before bed while we are talking on the phone. Rule 3 you must send me nude pics everyday. Rule 4 you will never wear panties in my presence. You have seen and heard these rules. Rules are meant to be beneficial to a slave. We take old habits and make new positive ones. Yea some do call it training I have before, I like the word molding. We are molding someone to fit our needs, or training. We are taking someones life and turning it inside out. We are taking someone who once had a resistance factor and taking the word NO or i cant out of their vocabulary. Again this all comes with being consistent and in control.

The bottom line is, if we remain who we say we are, if we prove who we say we are, if we put ours first no matter what, if we take care of ours, if we do not abuse with a bunch of worthless rules, if we remain true and yes consistent then there is only resistance for a short time.

The Slave already knows who and what they are, they already know who they want to be, we just have to take one brick down at a time, brush our hands off and take their hand and walk with them.

We as a Master are expected to live by certain standards we have a creed we must follow, we must always be truthful when speaking. We must earn what we get.

The rewards for both are just amazing, it can be the most loving relationship you have ever known. The Master will want for nothing at all. The out come is what you make of it.

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Your A Slave Seeking A Master

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, Advice, anger, anticipation, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, Bipolar, Bondage, Chat, communication, Consensual, controlling, Conversation, Dating, Dominants, emotional, Fake Dominants, Giving Head, Impact play, Master, munchs, No Panties, No Rights, oral sex, Patience, Rape, Safe Call, Security, slave, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick on September 22, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

This is probably one of the hardest task you will even endure in your life. This is probably one of the task you will make the most mistakes while you are searching.

I am not here to brag about who or what I am, I am okay with myself, I know who I am, I know what I am about, most of all I know what I need from my partner and out of life.

The hard cold fact if you put 100 Dominants side by side and you had to guess who were true to the lifestyle and lived it daily what would you think the numbers would be? 90 maybe 80 maybe 75 or even lower 50, well neither of those number even close lets say 3 or 4 . Now don’t spit your drink out just yet, because you can hit a bad snag and the numbers could drop even lower.

A while back I had a post similar to this and a woman disagreed with me when I said a Dominant should not mind providing references, be it old flames , people in the lifestyle, what local events he attends, the list goes on and on. There is nothing wrong with asking these questions.

The female who disagreed with me I was okay with her answer, everyone has a difference of opinion. Okay you meet a vanilla guy you go out to eat, a movie, maybe the beach at night, maybe you go to church together, or he invites you over to meet his parents. That is the Vanilla world.

Meeting a potential Master is not like meeting your AC man. You are meeting someone who is or could have full control over your life. You are meeting someone who could take away all of your rights. I am not speaking about those who are submissive, but it still goes along the same lines.

Most of all never let a New Dominant try to put a collar on you the first meeting, this is nothing but ego, would you marry him on your first date I would think not.

First things first Bondage can be very dangerous , impact play can be very dangerous, breath play can be deadly, again you are not meeting the preachers son who was introduced to you through your parents.

People die every year from S & M play, you do not die from eating a banana split sitting outside of Dairy Queen. So to aske questions upfront is perfectly okay.

A real Dominant that you meet via the net will not bring up the subject about sex right away, this is a very bad sign if your 15 minutes into a conversation and sex comes up. At this point he has no other interest in you.

Laying on your back and spreading does not make you a submissive, on your knees with a mouth full of Dick does not make you submissive. Talking dirty over the phone does not make you submissive, sending nude photos of yourself does not make you submissive, nor at this point and time do you have anything to prove. The new Dominant has everything to prove.

I have received a call at 2am a slave wanting me to drive 250 miles to pick her up because she had been raped and beating, and yes I did even after I had told her not to meet this dude, so she ended up with a broken Jaw, and a few ribs.  Rape happens to be very common when it comes to fake Dominant most know the act will go unreported just because you do not want to tell why it happened.

You have to become friends that is the first. What do you have in common, food, movies, maybe travel, flea markets. If you start out in a sexual relationship guess what? That is all you have and it will be short lived.

Here is the kicker, if you are a submissive or Slave who is on any type of depression medication, maybe your Bi-polar , you have to find someone who is understanding, a Dominant with compassion, and most important a Dominant with a great deal of Patience a lot of patience. Someone who cares about where your coming from, what your thinking someone who will make you talk about your thoughts and feelings. If you suffer from any of these disorders some parts of S & M may not be suitable for you, but you do it anyway because you want to please.

If you suffer from any of those disorders you need a well structured home, rules are good, unless all your rules are sexually based. You would be very surprised at what a difference a well structured and drama free home would make on your well being.

Other signs when you first meet a Dominant, most Slaves want and need to be number one, then there are some who do not mind if their Master is married, but if your looking for a single Master there are signs that will tell you.  One being you cannot call except on certain days or hours, or you text and you hear nothing for a couple of days. He will not show you where he lives. He will not take you out with his friends. You do not receive a call on your birthday, or holidays, again the list goes on and on.

There is nothing wrong with asking, what makes you a Dominant? Avoid those who demand you call them Sir at the beginning of a conversation. Being called Sir is respect and that has to be earned. Those who demand such things are ego driven.

Rules are meant to help, rules are meant to put structure back into your life. Rules should not be sexually based. When first meeting someone do not send nude pics, there is no reason. I have never asked for nudes, that takes all of the excitement out of meeting someone new.

In a new relationship I usually start out with 5 or 6 good rules, sometimes less, I take old habits and make good habit, this is the first part of training. as the relationship progresses more can be added if needed. You can implement to many rules and make the Slave feel overwhelmed. We do not want to set anyone up for failure.

Another question that pops up is are you Bi do you like girls? It is okay to say no and that should not be a deal breaker, ask the new Dominant if he is Bi and look at his reaction.

The most important thing to remember is you do not have to submit when you first meet a new Dom, you don’t have to suck cock in the Denny’s parking lot to prove your submissive. You don’t have to fuck on the first date to prove your submissive. you don’t have to wear a short skirt with no panties when you first meet to prove your submissive. I asked that shit when I was in my 20’s.

Take your time and do not settle for less. Your not buying a new car or a house. You are looking for leadership, security, most of all someone who will understand you and takes care of your needs.

Let me tell you this if you do not set up precautions before you meet someone and you end up in a hotel with someone you really do not know the situation could really turn ugly and fast . You might find yourself tied up and no place to go.

Set up a safe call with a friend, good idea, once your at your destination take a picture of the address, the tag on his car send it to your safe call. If nothing else this will make the Dominant think twice. Better yet you can be upfront and tell him what your plans are, he should be perfectly okay with your plans, if he objects any then make other plans for the night.

 

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You Can’t Fix Stupid

Posted in 128 Basic rules, 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Advice, anger, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, BDSM Safety, Beatings, blow job, Bondage, Consensual, control, controlling, Conversation, cum, Discipline, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Discipline, Dominance, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Fantasy, fuck hole, fucking, Giving Head, Humiliation, Kink, kinky, married, Married Dominant, masochist, Master, Masters, Mini Skirts, morals, No Inhibitions, No Panties, No Rights, non-consensual, On your knees on your back, oral, oral sex, Pain, Patience, punish, Punishment, Respect, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, Safe, Safe and Sane, Scared, session, slave, Spanking, stupid, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick, TPE, Trust, Whores, You Can't Fix Stupid on July 14, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Quoted by Comedian Ron White. You Can’t Fix Stupid. Yes that is the truth. There is no class you can take, nor is there a pill, stupid is forever.

Yea I know I rag on men pretty bad I suppose that is why 95% of my followers are women, single, married, dating, and yes confused. I do appreciate everyone who stops by to see what I am ranting over, sometimes I do get off track a little at times, mostly when someone does something stupid. Yea I rag on married men who have to cheat and step outside of their marriage because they cannot control their own home and put their bitch in place. They are scared to talk to their wives about there kinks, and needs, but for the most it is just a fantasy and nothing more it never does last to long. They end up going back home with their head stuck between their ass cheeks and continue to say Yes Dear. Pussy’s.

On the other side of the picture some men well most who are in a D’s or M’s relationship still do not fully understand what they have at hand. They have not a clue about how good things could or can be. They do not have a clue about how every fantasy, or dream, or a life of total bliss could or can come true.

Walk up to your Vanilla wife and say on your knees bitch suck my cock right now. Your going to get this stupid look like REALLY, are you SERIOUS?  Tell your Vanilla wife to strip and spread again that look, then here it comes you feel Stupid, again you can’t fix Stupid.

Men or those who are Dominant or claim to be , or who demand to be called Master do not have a clue about the possibility’s that stands before them. They know what they want but they are not sure how to go about it.

Then for what ever reason most believe or think that the lifestyle is about punishing, spanking, humiliating, degrading, and even physically hurting, and not looking at the mental aspects of what they are doing.

You broke one of my 128 rules bend over and take your punishment, I am going to beat you until you can understand my rules. I will beat you so bad you will think twice before disobeying me.

Yea it does not really work that way. The truth is a Submissive or Slave would not think of breaking a rule. The punishment in their mind is far greater than laying down and taking a beating. The Sub or Slave is more than willing to lay and take what you give, even after the bruising and yes some cuts. Which will most likely be there for weeks to come. Did they really break a rule or did you the Master change one up to fit your needs?

Submissive’s and Slaves thrive on making their owners happy, and will go through great lengths to insure their owner is taking care of. It gives the sub and slave a natural high knowing they have pleased. Even if it is a one way street they thrive on pleasing and the truth is they expect very little in return.

Here is the thing a Submissive or Slave is really looking for very little. Love , acceptance , communication, someone who is truthful. They are looking for guidance, structure, and most of all total understanding of who and what they are. As you can see the list is not really that long.

Most will allow the owner to have more than one, which you know in the vanilla world that would be a total no no. Most will allow you to pass them around like a bucket of popcorn with only the question in their eyes not from their mouths, a look of confusion, but yes most will do so just to please.

There are not many men who have the privilege of calling their woman their BITCH, again call your vanilla wife your bitch, and you get no pussy for two weeks. You can call her your whore, fuck meat what ever comes to mind, and if you wonder why you can refer yourself to what I wrote about what they are looking for.

So you have a woman, who will suck your cock at the snap of a finger, a woman who will spread and allow you to just fuck her without caring if she cums or not. A woman who will dress to please you, even when she does not feel comfortable wearing that mini skirt with no panties in public. A woman who will crawl on the floor like an animal, bark on demand. A woman who just truly wants to please their owner.

Yet after the above we still have those who have the need to abuse, be it physical or mental some still have the need.

We as Dominants are suppose to build up. Yes it is a fact that most who are submissive do have a low self esteem, not all but for the most it is true. So we as Dominants work to build up. We want to take all the hurt and pain away. We want to guide, we want ours to excel, we want to help with dreams, yes dreams can come true.

I believe most who are submissive will take what is giving bad or good. Most will except the pain, knowing they are being accepted. I just do not understand how a Dominant could not feel guilty after a long session knowing the submissive did not enjoy or get anything out of it.

It has been some twenty years now, my first was a total masochist and after the first session I was really scared and there was something inside me that just felt sicking. I had this load of guilt. Even the second and third session I felt guilty. Then it hit me the pain and humiliation is what she wanted and needed. Does this make it right? That would depend on who you talk to some see it as abuse and at times I saw it as abuse.

After our split it took me some years to realize that not every submissive was like sherri, not everyone needed the pain and humiliation. There were females in the lifestyle that were truly scared of me. What made this worse is other Dominants would praise me because of the recognition I had within the community. At that time it made me feel good but as I grew older and wiser, I knew that was not who I wanted to be known as.

We are all different, Dominants, Tops, Bottoms , slaves Submissive’s, and yes those who switch which I never understood. We all want different relationships, some of those who are submissive, only want to submit while in the bedroom, some only want to submit while at home. Then others want to give up full control. Some want to be punished, some want and need to be spanked and spanked hard, some do not want to be spanked at all. I myself am not physical when it comes to punishment.

As I stated the last thing a submissive or slave wants to do is break a rule. If they start to break rules they are acting out because they feel that they should be getting more attention and will do most anything in order to receive the attention they need even if it means breaking a rule.

I believe instead of being physical you can sit down and talk as adults, at times the submissive is looking for more to happen.

I just do not understand, you have a woman submissive or slave who will lay down and spread at anytime, really willing to do just about anything to keep their owner happy, and for what ever reason the Dominant has the need to abuse.

If anyone can figure this out please let me know, because after twenty plus years I still do not have a clue.

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How Do You Dress Your Slave

Posted in abuse, Amish Dress, Amish Mafia, bdsm, Bdsm events, Mini Skirts, No Panties, Protocol, Protocol public, selfish, Six inch Heels, slave, submissive on April 7, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I remember back in the day it was short skirts, no panties , and sometimes a Bra, and high heels. I am a total leg man so legs are important, well the ass first, but then the legs.

It is different if I am not in a one on one relationship, If I am just dating then yes I want the total slut look. I want the skirt so short it just barely covers the ass cheeks, ahh yes and no panties.

Now that I am older things have changed, don’t get me wrong every Dom loves to show off his property, but my showing off is much different today than it was twenty years ago.  I do have a few slave dresses I bought for Arianna to wear around the house, yea they are ugly, but my reasoning behind the dresses are to keep Arianna in that frame of mind.

If I thought it was practical I would dress Arianna in Amish dresses everyday seven days a week and she would gladly wear them, but then I would probably have the Amish Mafia knocking on my door.

As I stated my showing off today is much different. My showing off is how Arianna acts in public, be it over at someones house, or at a munch. Yes the old Protocol.  While out I do allow her to dress up, short skirt six inch heels, she is always the finest woman there. The way she dresses, acts, speaks, walks. When we walked into the last munch all heads turned, and the eyes were glued to Arianna.

I guess at one time I had a large ego, and over the years it has slowly faded away. When it comes to dressing I am somewhat conservative now. I love the covered look, because I already know what is under the dress, and I know it is all mine.

I have seen some Doms push the dress protocol to the limit, making the submissive or slave feel uncomfortable and you can tell by the looks in her eyes she does not want to be there.

I have had other Dominants come up to me and tell me they cannot believe how well mannered Arianna is, and they love the way she acts while being out. Well if you like it so much put your Dom thing to work.  Even when going to speak Arianna ask me for permission before doing so, she just does not blurt out.

There comes a time slave or not we should respect our property, be it private or public. I mean as a Dominant would you go to a munch wearing a speed O and a T shirt, in heels, I would think not, so why would you expect the same out of your slave.

This is just how I feel, my thoughts and my opinion. We are all different, but when you tell a slave to wear something and you can see that look in her eyes. Just take a minute and put her shoes on think about her, and how she is going to feel.

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