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Some Have A Very Dark Side , Michael Makai

Posted in Bad Dominant, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, BDSM Online Relationships, Charles Michael Segaloff, consequences, Convicted Sex Offender, Fake Dominants, http://housemakai.wordpress.com/, human trafficking, Living Poly, Manipulation, Michael Makai, morals, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, Polygamist, polygamy, Self Proclaimed Master, Slave, Submissive, Total Servitude / Solitude on December 26, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am going to say it was roughly two years ago I received a phone call , at that time I was very interested in starting a internet radio show , and today I am still pondering the idea. It is a long time commitment if I were to venture into such a thing.

The call came in and the number was blocked , I found that to be somewhat odd but I took it anyway , note this was already prearranged. I had a million questions and then a few more, as I was talking the answers I was getting , were in a belittling format , but I just looked over it because it was apparent the person I was speaking with on the phone was not who he portrayed himself to be…. It was not long after I unfriended  him from social media.

So a somewhat successful book it would seem he was at the top of the world , but I am sure the closet was getting so full the door would not shut, so he manipulated others to stand and hold it closed , if that makes any sense.

Thinking back about all the people I have met in the lifestyle ive noticed one thing , and that would be manipulation. Manipulation runs wild like a cancer, preying on those who have no clue about the lifestyle or maybe even infatuation plays a part , but there is a trigger..

No matter who you are, or think you are, or the game you are playing you always get caught. The world crashes down around you , the walls cave in around you and there is no place to run , or even any friends to turn to , because everyone runs and hides.

It is funny you think you have a million friends but then you find out your really alone, I cannot even imagine how that would feel, on any level.

So who am I speaking of ? I was not going to bring up any names but I have changed my mind.

If a 17 year old contacts a grown man , the only words that should be spoken is I cannot help you. Mike was contacted via face book this is where the relationship began.

I am speaking of no other than Charles Michael Segaloff , or as many know him as Michael Makai

I want to go over a few things first before I begin my rant. A Dominant is a leader in the community , reaching out to those in need , and not expecting anything in return. As we grow older we want to share what we have learned over the years, while my way or our way may not be yours maybe there would be something you could put to good use. While I cannot fix you or your relationship , maybe some of my advice just might come in handy.

When someone wants to profit from your needs or questions , this is not the trait of a real Dominant. I am proud to say I did not purchase any of his books, I did listen to about 10 minutes of his boring radio show.

You always get caught no matter how good you are, be it cheating , drugs , or picking up a 17 year old girl so you can have sex with her, more troublesome driving 2500 miles to pick her up and really thinking your going to get away with it.

Just thinking that makes you a dumb ass , and acting on it makes you stupid.

I cannot even think why A man or a Dominant could think that a 17 year old would even understand the lifestyle , but when you turn it into manipulation that makes it a different story.

When someone thinks they can just pickup a 17 year old girl and think no one is going to miss her or report her missing, then that makes you really stupid.

What I find really upsetting is he was able to form a 501 non-profit on the study of Polyamory, wow really ? Being a convicted sex offender since 2001, you would of thought someone would of caught that..

I am going to share some recent articles along with news paper releases..

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/bdsm-author-allegedly-lured-girl-small-town-sex-family-article-1.2475835

http://www.kswo.com/story/30818181/lawton-author-charged-for-bringing-teen-from-new-york-for-sex

I also have the Arrest Warrant that was shared with me on Facebook , which was more than happy to share all the emails and chats, as they should have…

So it is not like the lifestyle already has a bad name , I am not sure if this will make national news or not Mike is really a nobody…

 

 

 

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You Should Not Bash Your Dom

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, 24/7, abuse, Arianna, bdsm, Consensual, consequences, Discipline, Disrespect, Dominance, Dominant, Dominants, FaceBook Vile Woods, Guidelines, Humiliation, Married Dominant, Master, Master And Slave, morals, Protocol, Rules, slave, Submission, submissive on July 19, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

My Dom is not treating me right, my Dom is an Ass , my Dom does not know what hes doing, my Dom is abusing me.

You know what happens behind your doors should stay behind your doors. What goes on between two should stay that way. It is no ones business.

What makes things worse it may not even be the Dom’s fault. Maybe you don’t like the way hes doing something, or rules he has put in place , or it may even be a punishment you don’t agree with or you think is to harsh.

Then pissed off and you start looking for a new Dominant or Master, giving false information, making your Dom out to be the bad guy.
The truth is most men will take the word of a female when it comes to abuse. I always say there is two sides to every story.

So your out here running off at the mouth and your Dom does not have a clue, your making him out to be the bad guy.

The Doms your talking to , the whole thing is starting out as a lie. The abuse, the lack of communication, the disrespect, the humiliation. When in fact none of it is true.

Here they have tried to start up a few submissive groups, but they never worked, because they just turned into huge bitch sessions…

Now tell me when you put a group of women together, and they start talking trash, do you really believe that no one is not going to say anything?

If you sit down and think the next time you don’t agree with something your Dom has implemented, maybe instead of bitching to other people, you just sit down and think about why he did something.

Maybe you needed stricter rules ,maybe you needed your ipad taking away from you, or your laptop. Maybe you needed more structure.

You need to sit and look back where you were at prior to entering the relationship. I would be willing to be in most cases there was a 100% turn around. I would be willing to bet you are in a much better place.

If you tell a Dominant your being abuse, and your not he will probably believe you.

You should be able to communicate with your owner. and if your not happy with the rules and protocols, you should of thought about that before entering the relationship.

On the other hand if your seeing a Married Dominant and your not getting what you need, then you need to just suck it up..

Vile

To Those Who Cheat

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Advice, anal sex, anger, Anger Issues, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, Being fucked, being used, Cheat, Cheaters, cheating, Cheating Dominant, cock sucking, commitment, communication, consequences, consistent, control, controlling, Conversation, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Discipline, Dominant, Dominant Switch, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Fake Dominants, Lies, married, Married Dominant, Master And Slave, morals, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick, Vile, Vile Woods on FaceBook, Wedding Vows on June 1, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I give my opinions nothing more , I may not be much but I am a man with Morals, I am a man with pride, I am a man who lives by the truth , but most of all I am a man who is loyal to the end.

I was stuck in a bad marriage for 9 years because I was at Bush Gardens one year and as I was sitting there watching all these married couples pass me by who had children , I started thinking man I am missing out on a lot. The wife, the kid the dog, the house with a fence, cooking out with the smith’s I was missing out on something very special.

Chong had just left maybe I was just feeling lonely, my feelings were mixed, my mind was going a thousand miles an hour. So I found a wife. To this day I harbor some guilt, not because I still love her, that is so far from the truth, but because I lead her down a false path, I made her believe I was someone else, and for 8 1/2 years I lived a lie. The longer we were married to more it tore me up on the inside, I was dieing to get the fuck out, but I was going to try one thing. I was going to come clean about who I was and what I needed. Well that did not go over so well, and being married to the church lady did not help the situation at all. So I was asked to leave, and it was not until after I moved out Bea and I came into play. Now I had met Bea on line but we had not met each other until I moved out.

We had a son while I was married he will be 16 this year, and here is part of my morals coming out. I have not missed a child support payment in 16 years, although it is court ordered it does not come out of my pay check. 16 years not one payment has been missed and for many years I paid twice the amount that I was suppose to because I knew how she was struggling.  Again part of my morals.

Part of my morals when we were married I took vows, and many of you wrote your own vows, you swore to stand by each other through thick and thin for better or worse. You said it looking into each others eyes, and your husband or wife believed you, they took what you said to heart and trusted you.

Now there are circumstances that comes into light than can change those vows, If you are being abused, be it mentally or physically.. If you catch your spouse cheating, that is the unforgivable sin in my home. I told Arianna first thing if you cheat make sure that is who you want to be with because that is where you are moving. I refuse to sleep with someone who has been where I lay. The unforgivable sin, if you fuck around you are dead in my eyes.

Okay so we change, we are human, our needs change, not wants our needs. We begin to age and we want more out of life, so this is where the communication comes into play. You do have the right to express your needs, you have the right to tell your spouse how you have changed. If your spouse refuses to comply or try, then you have the right to leave, remember the VOWS you took now, for better or worse.

So the female cheats because she is not getting her kink met, her husband no longer communicates with her, they are no longer on the same intellectual level, hes hanging with the boys at the bar. You have the right to communicate, you have the right to express your needs. What you do not have the right to do is let someone other dude bang you and then go home to the man who has built the roof over your head, the man who pays your bills the man who puts food on your table, the father of your children, because this other dude is not going to share any of that responsibility, he is there for the pussy. The bad news is, the relationship will be short lived and you will be back to square one. The truth is you will get caught it is not when but how. You have to think is it fair to drag your children into your mess, to drag your whole family into your mess. Is it fair to catch something you cannot get a shot for and pass it on to your spouse. Again you took Vows.

The male who cheats, once a cheater always a cheater. So his wife will not suck cock, or refuses to do anal. He knew this before he took his what ? His Vows he knew this ahead of time, but at that point and time it was not a need because he had a steady piece of ass, he was or is getting a steady piece almost every night but the one thing missing was the cock sucking, being able to get the ass. Now it becomes a need because you told him no. If you tell a man NO then he needs it, it is in bedded in his brain now he has to have it.

Now we have google, I found Bea through yahoo profile searches which was the best. all you had to do was go to profiles and type in submissive or slave and a million names popped up. I had the world at my finger tips. The internet is a powerful mother fucker, you can find anything, including a bitch that will suck cock. someone who will take it up the ass, someone who will crawl to you,and someone who will sit by their phone and wait for your text or call.

You found your married Dom your married daddy. He is married to the worst bitch in the world, shes a fucking cunt, she is worthless, she is a bad mother, he wishes he was not still married to her, but you saved him your just what he needs now. He has been assuring you he is going to leave, but the time has to be right.

The bad thing is you fall for it, and you wait and you wait and you wait, but it never comes , he never moves out, even though she is so bad. She will not communicate with him, she will not have sex with him, she does not connect with him, she is so so bad, but he never leaves.

The truth is everything is fine on the home front except the sucking cock part, or the ass fucking, being able to tie you up, being able to spank you, you know the little things his bad wife wont do, but she does cook clean, probably works as well, and takes care of his children. He takes them out, they go on vacations together, school functions, they have cook outs with the smiths, while you sit and stare at your phone.

I am telling you this as a man not a pissed off woman, I am letting you in on how a male thinks , because I do not want to see you be someones bitch who is just there to suck cock once or twice a month.

If his life was so bad and he was treated so bad, you know what ? He would leave. He would pack his shit up and move the fuck out no matter the cost. No man is going to stay where he is not happy its not going to happen. On the other hand if he can stay home and get ass on the side, he will ride the storm out.

You know 30 years ago if you caught something you could go to the doctor and get a shot. Today that is not true, and most of you do not enforce any type of protection, putting your own life in danger. In the end you will be stuck alone, and your Dom or daddy is still cooking out with the smiths.

Some men for what ever reason are just close minded, I know dudes who don’t even like blow jobs, I know dudes who think anal sex is nasty. Some men see tying you up and spanking you as abuse. Some are just that stupid. A woman can tell their husband here I am you can do anything you want, and they think your sick, they think you need help. Like you I do not get it nor do I understand it.

If your an unhappy submissive and you have talked to your husband and he will not come around, if your kink means that much to you then leave. If you need to submit and he will not fill that dominant role then leave, but you better hope the one you move in with is going to be able to provide for you on all levels.

To the women who are subs or baby girls, and your seeing a married man.. He is not going to leave his wife, he is not going to leave the stability he has. He is not going to leave the mother of his children There are a few who will very few, but you have to look at his side of the world can you fill the shoes his wife can, because everything today comes down to money. If his wife is making a hundred grand a year and your making thirty grand a year, go on think about it, or maybe your not even working, the odds are not there, but if your a betting woman, go ahead and roll the dice.

I am just ranting, if your being cheated on it is not fair, if your the cheater its not fair. Somewhere in your head or heart if your seeing a married man, you have to be thinking about his wife, the one who gave birth to his children, the one who has built what he has, the one who has stood by all his bull shit. How would you feel if you were being cheated on? In a way you are because hes banging both of you.

Remember all you get is one side of the story, his side. If he says she does not care what he does, then it should be alright for you to talk to his wife. Last if you think you are the only one he is banging, your really dumb.

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It Is Not Always The Dominant’s Fault

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, anal sex, Arianna, bdsm, Consensual, consistent, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Dating, Dominant, Face Fucking, Fake Dominants, Lie, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, Meeting your new Dom/Master, micromanage, Micromanagement, mistakes, morals, Patience, Protocol, references, relationships, Safe, Safe and Sane, sex, slave, Slave no rights, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on March 2, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

A year and a half I have been ragging on other Dominants because of abuse. The fake Dominants who lurk in the shadows waiting for the perfect prey to come along.

Even those who are Submissive or a Slave has said well this Dom is a fake that Dom is a fake, but that is not always the case. There are those few times the submissive has just read someone wrong.

When you first meet a Dom, or a Daddy, maybe a Master, they all have a series of questions they ask you. When a question is asked they want a straight forward answer. They want the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. When asked questions you give a direct answer, and sometimes it is good to add if you see the need, or you want the conversation to take a different avenue.

If your asked a question or he makes a statement and you agree, you have just started digging yourself a hole, and unless you do something to correct it, your hole will continue to get deeper, because this is your train of thought.

When you speak about limits stand firm on your hard limits. Do you like anal sex ? No I do not that is a hard limit. If you do not like Anal sex say so? Do you enjoy pain ? No Pain is a very hard limits.  If pain is truly a hard limit say so. Do not say something that may have a bad outcome if you choose to enter such a relationship.

This is Vile.

Why do you want to be a Slave. I am looking right in her eyes waiting for a reply. I also want full eye contact.

When did you first become interested in the lifestyle ? Wait for answer.

How many Doms or Masters have you been with and what happened ? May I contact them ? And I have contacted other Masters.

How do you see yourself in an M’s relationship on a daily basis ?

The Slave What are my rules ? Vile I do not know as of yet I do not know you well enough to give or enforce any rules..

Vile

Before we go any further let me explain who I am. I am looking for a slave with little to no limits. I am looking for a slave who wants to be completely owned.  Sex is when I want and need, you have three holes and I plan to use all of them is that understood ? If the answer is no to anyone of those the conversation is over because I Vile will not bend.

You will follow my rules once I know you well enough to start implementing them is that understood ? Again the answer must be yes, looking at me in the eyes.

You will follow my protocols to a T without question,  is that understood ? What are your protocols ? I then say I am simple I have three that will be followed 1 2 3 I may add more as I see fit.

Vile

I do not share, you must remain loyal at all times is that understood ? Again the answer must be yes.

Are you into pain ? The Slave no I am not, good because I am not either. If her answer would of been yes that would of ended the conversation. Why ? Because that was something I could no provide her.

Vile

What are your needs ? What is it you need to be a slave on a daily basis ?  Very important questions there, again you must give a straight answer. You should already have every answer in your head by the time you meet someone. You should have a fucking list a mile long.

Vile

I am going to go one more step. In my home there has to be a bitch, you would be my slave, I would owne you without question, you are to follow. You do not have the right to question me and the word no never comes out of your mouth, unless.

There is an unless and a exception to the rule. If the submissive or slave sees their owner is making a mistake and it will effect the house, then they have the right to question, and they have the right to know what is going to be done to fix the problem.

Vile

Have you understood everything ? Did I leave anything out ? Do I need to cover anything I said again?

It is very important for the Dominant to be very clear when he is explaining his need, his rules and protocols. It should be explained in such a manner that he leaves no rock un-turned.

Vile

Do you have any questions or comments, or something you would like to share?

Answer I need all of the above, but I need to be micromanaged . WHoa , she just through in a wrench into my thinking process, that was something I was not expecting, so now my brain has just hit Mach one.

Vile

Micromanaged as in ? I want you to completely run my life, including my daily task, what I eat, when I sleep, when I shower, what I wear, everything.

Vile

Well um hmmm let me think. This was something that caught me totally off guard.

See now the Slave has the upper hand, the slave is now in control of the conversation.

Vile

That is something I am going to have to think about. I did not give a reason, I did not have to.

Vile

So if I agree to your terms and you agree to mine, your thinking maybe we should try to move forward is that correct ?

If I had agreed to her terms right then and there I would of been stuck, or played the micromanage part until I felt like I had enough control so I could back off.

I had to think about that part for a day. That would be taking a very large step. Before I could commit I had to come up with a plan, I even tried consulting with or Dominants, and their answer was man fuck that shit.

I however felt we had enough in common that I just might be up for such a task.

Everybody is not going to have the same questions, or the same needs, but you get the idea.

If you give the Dom a false answer or your just saying yes to please, you are like the Titanic you will sink and you will sink fast, and there are no life boats.

Sex is not the main road in a relationship, but if someone answered no to anyone of mine, the conversation was over, done. In the past I had giving in and it did not last. Why ? Because I was not upfront and I lied.

Be prepared, ask questions, do not be afraid to say I will not or afraid to use the word no. If the Dominant gets up and walks out, then it was not meant to be.

That goes the same with the Submissive or Slave, you to should get up and walk out. Kick the dirt and move on

It is not always the Dominants fault.

If a Dominant tells you when you are meeting with him, and he says your not allowed to have any eye contact. Tell him to go fuck himself. He does not have that right. If you agree you are already submitting , at this point that is not where you want to be.

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Vile

Here Are 4 Things To Look For In A Mentor, And What To Run From..

Posted in abuse, Advice, bdsm, BDSM Safety, fucking, Giving Head, Mentor, morals, oral sex, Safe, sex, slave, Spanking, submissive on August 20, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

This post was over a year ago. I had published it on another blog I was on, so the dates may sound a bit off.

Right now I am mentoring a Submissive and a Slave. I spend a great deal of time on the phone, and in person.

The Slave I met last week, very nice, really beautiful, so docile, and way to eager. A couple in Orlando recommended her to me.

As we sat down to talk, she began telling me about a Master she was seeing in Orlando, who was her Mentor. She was telling me she would go over to his apartment 3 days a week, he would tie her up, spank, fuck, what ever he saw fit, and send her on her way. Wow seriously, really! This went on for about 3 months, until she started speaking to this couple she had met at a munch.

I suppose in a lot of ways Dominants are like physiologist without the PHD. We allow them to open up, the more time you spend with them, the more comfortable they will become. There submissive side comes out, and a million questions. While I do not claim to know everything, I do my best, and a phone is just a reach away.

A mentor by no means has the right to have sex , session with or touch, other than a hug, a mentor is not a trainer, and should make those things very clear. If the submissive or slave begins to have feelings which happens very often, at that point all ties should be broken.

I ran across this and wanted to share it. There is a lot of good information..

There are mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSM it is sometimes recommended to newbies to pick up a mentor, but are never given the tools to find a mentor that is right for them. I know that when I first started out there were good people to be around and not so great people that left their mark on me. I do wish that people had lead me to learn what a mentor is and how to go about finding one that is right for me.

First, a mentor isn’t just a friend that you can talk to, although they could start out that way. A mentor is someone that you can get advice from, learn from and feel close to in a submissive context. They exist to help you learn who you are and what to expect in different lifestyle situations you may encounter as you grow in confidence and submission. A mentor is not a trainer and should not be directly involved in any physical training that you undergo. You should never have an intimate physical relationship with your mentor.

Let’s take a real world example: Big Brothers and Big Sisters. These volunteers are mentors for needy children all over the nation. They become friends and confidants for the kids involved and some go on to be close to their little brothers/sisters well into adult hood. They strengthen the child’s confidence and provide them an outlet to learn and grow without the stress of parents influence. It’s all healthy and beneficial for both parties.

A BDSM mentor should be similar. There are a few things I’d like you to look for the next time you seek out a mentor for your life. Keep them in mind the next time you approach someone and you may be able to find the person that can guide you.

1. Are their beliefs and definitions similar to yours?

You want to find a mentor that has the same definitions of common terms in BDSM. If they feel that a submissive and a slave are the same thing, and you don’t then they won’t be compatible with you when you bring up topics along that thread of thought. Treat your first few conversations as an interview. Ask them how they came into BDSM, what they think about safe Imagewords and relationships and those all important personal terms. If they mesh well with what you think then keep going. This person could be a good mentor for you.

If you are so new that you don’t know what those personal definitions mean to you, then take on what is known as an open mentor. This is someone that is available for new people to learn for themselves and helps guide you into your own definitions so that you can find a more targeted mentor later on if you choose to. I consider myself an open mentor and want to help you find yourself before you key into the specifics of your new life as a submissive. I can do focused mentoring, but prefer to make sure your personal beliefs and definitions are solidified first.

2. Are they open to letting you talk or do they force a lot of questions at you?

A good mentor is going to allow for silence in conversation so that you can think things through and talk about what you want to talk about. Mentors know when to point questions at you that will help you think, but keep the conversation flowing the way that is most beneficial to you, the mentee, not the mentor. You should be able to pick up this trait from the interview phase.

3. Are they professional yet comfortable to be around?

When you first meet someone or talk to someone that is considering being your mentor, are they professional in manner? You should feel comfortable around them relatively easily and feel free to talk about whatever is on your mind. If you feel uncomfortable or their questions are far more private than your relationship allows, it’s a warning sign that they are not the mentor for you. A mentor’s job is to make a novice comfortable with what they are experiencing and who they are, if that can’t happen in the interview phase it may not happen at all.

4. Do they appear to know what they are talking about?

Mentors are not going to know everything, but they are going to be well versed in a lot of aspects that novices come to them with questions about. If your mentor gives you the impression that they don’t know a whole lot about what you need to talk about, it may be best to seek out someone else. Great mentors will be prepared for all questions, even if it means they need to research and learn before they can give you quality advice. Someone not willing to work for you as well as with you isn’t really taking your growth strongly.

Now there are a lot of other things to look for in a mentor, but for now; take these thoughts and figure out if a mentor would be someone you want in your current situation. If it is, start seeking them. Interview them before you start pouring your thoughts to them. Get to know them as a person and as a submissive. Feel comfortable with them and don’t let them lead the thoughts, they are there for your growth. Continue to learn and your submission will develop.

Vile

Pass Your Slave Around

Posted in abuse, anal sex, Arianna, bdsm, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, disable, Dominants, Eating Pussy, emotional, Fear, Fetish, fuck hole, fuck meat, fucking, Gang Bang, Humiliation, Kink, kinky, Master, morals, oral, oral sex, pass your slave around, Safe, Safe and Sane, sex, slave, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick on August 12, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I cannot relate to the way other Dominants feel, when they think it is okay to pass your property around like a bowl of pop corn.

A couple of weeks ago I was speaking with another Dom via phone, and it only took me a couple of minutes to realize I had made a mistake by answering it.  You know how some people can just be annoying on the phone. Then you have to act like your really interested in the conversation. and I am thinking why cant by battery in my cell just die, or maybe hear that beep drop call. She was nothing more than fuck meat, she was a whore, a cunt, she was worthless, and was built for only one thing, being used and abused.

He was looking for a room to rent, not from us, but I knew a couple who was looking to rent a room out, so I was going to introduce them. They did go meet the other couple, which did not turn out to well. As you have noticed you did not see here that I invited them over to my house, that would never happen. I just don’t open my home up to anyone.

Although I do know a lot of people within the community there are very few I would hang out with. I have not found really anyone I can really connect with.

So this phone conversation is going nowhere fast, I am yawning hoping for some kind of natural disaster, an earth quake, possibly a hurricane, a cell tower to fall over something.

This Dom is on Disability , nothing wrong with that, it happens to the best, and there are those who truly need it. Our conversation turned to bars and going to sex parties, okay still have not peaked my interest. He is talking about how much his ex slave was out of control, she would not listen, out drinking all the time, just out of control.

Then he begins to tell me how next time he was going to lay the law down. She would fuck and suck anyone he wanted her to, he was just going to pass her around and let others do what they wanted to. Yea I am thinking no friendship in sight.

I have seen this before some years ago I was invited to speak at a swingers party, Once I had finished I decided to hang around for a little, to see just what went on. So after a bit I went upstairs mother nature calling and I saw a line outside of a bedroom so as I am passing these three dudes were just hammering away at this little blonde, I could tell she was not enjoying it, almost in tears, so I just shrugged it off none of my business, so off to the bathroom I go, still thinking about her and the bad situation. I washed my hands whipping my hands on my jeans making sure not to touch anything, walking down the hall I stopped looked again, and I walked into the bedroom and this dude was yelling at her because she was not sucking dick right, he then told me I had to get in line.

So I told her to get dressed, and he looked at me sticking his chest out and told me to mind my own business she was not through, I said yea man she is done, once dressed I took her by the hand and we walked downstairs and out to my truck I told her to get in. I did not feel like driving down to west palm that night so I took her home, once in I told her to shower, and I I got her a blanket and sheet out and put it on the couch.

After the shower sitting at the table she started to explain she had just met this Dom that night for the first time. They had spent several weeks talking and emailing each other, but once she met him he changed. WOW a huge change.

We all have our kinks, we all have our needs, and to each their own. I am not here to judge anyone, or tell someone how they should run their life.

These men are Ego Driven nothing more, it is a pure power high, being able to control someone in such an inhuman manner, not giving a fuck

Okay I believe you can like someone and it does not bother you to watch some other dude fuck your girl, but to say you love someone and be able to do the same thing nah I just cannot see it. To put someone you love in such a horrid position and the word love comes out of your mouth.

I am not into sharing, I would not get off on watching my slave bang some other dude, and I respect her enough not to even ask. I love watching two women together, but again the respect factor comes into play.

A D’s or M’s relationship is not about power, or ego, it is about love respect and honor, it is about caring for the one your with. It is not about abuse physical or mental, it is about two walking the same path.

On the other side there are those who enjoy being passed around, there are those who enjoy gang bangs, even being forced to perform sexual acts, some get off on it, I can see the thrill, the need, the sexual drive. To each their own, have at it.

What ever gets you off, be like Nike and just do it, but do not put others in harms way just so you can get your kink on.

 

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My Face Book , I got Busted

Posted in 24/7, abuse, anger, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, blow job, Bondage, communication, Consensual, control, Dominance, Dominants, FaceBook, fucking, Giving Head, Master, morals, oral sex, Protocol, pussy, Respect, Rules, sex, slave, submissive on August 8, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Okay I have been busted, I thought I had changed everything so I could only let a select few view my adult Face Book. A co-worker I am guessing had nothing better to do except sit around and try to dig up information on me or others as well, found viles Face Book.

Okay no biggie really but now I am looked at differently I mean not that I care, nor did I give it much thought, but I did find the questions to be really annoying.

First most who no nothing of the lifestyle , or have no interest they automatically think abuse. How can you treat someone that way? What do you get out of it? BDSM is about abouse and nothing more. Even when you try to explain they are only hearing what they want to hear. They assume the relationship is not consensual.

Okay I do not explain myself to Arianna nor am I going to explain myself to anyone else. If you have a question I will answer, but I am not going to explain my life, my actions or my kink.

One I have never raised my voice to Arianna, I can think of one time where a bitch got under my skin enough to really piss me off. I was married for nine years and not one time did I ever raise my voice. Two I have never hit a woman out of anger the key word is NEVER. Three I have never pushed a woman further than she could go. I am about respect I mean total respect.

Most of the ones making comments are all single and have been for a very long time. Most spend time on Fridays deciding how much they can spend on beer, and put enough bar money back.

If anyone of them had a clue about my relationship with Arianna, or how well our relationship is, how well we communicate, how we never argue, and it is not because she does not have the right to ask questions or speak. I take great pride in our communication.

If they even had the slightest clue about how much effort I put into out relationship, how we work as a team just fucking WOW.

Yea it is true I have it made, I have a wife and partner who listens, who does not complain, one who is very docile, calm, cool and collective, very gentle. A partner who does not talk back, wears what she is told, cooks , cleans house, laundry, yea I’ve got it made.

Okay so I get my Dick sucked when I want, I fuck when I want, the word no never comes out of her mouth

Yes I do have an awesome woman, wife and slave, it is our kink, our lifestyle, we fit each others needs.

You know I do have a few people I get along with at work, there are a few who like me, and even a few I would hang with from time to time. One friend who is single, we were talking and I was going to try to fix him up with a submissive I know. After explaining what the relationship would be like, he was like fuck that I just want a bitch to give me head when I want. Really that is all you want

Although if a female can give good head you can look over a lot of shit. A good blow job goes a long way with me. I am not putting anyone down but sucking cock is really an art, just like eating pussy, every man does not know how to eat pussy, it takes someone who truly loves it, the same with sucking cock.

Anything that is taboo is not acceptable.  Those who are not into kink find it unacceptable. Okay I can understand. Hmm you just want you cock sucked nothing more.

What makes us so different than lets say a vanilla couple? Is it because Arianna respects me? Is it because we never argue? Is it because we have a well structured home? Ahh the rules now that is different, the protocols those are different. You know I am still not seeing much of a difference here. Even in a vanilla home someone still makes the final decision, someone has the final say so.

I can say this I respect Arianna enough not to scream or yell at her. I respect her enough not to call her any names, well out of anger. I respect her enough to respect her limits. So your going to judge me? Really?

I did let it bother me for a very short minute, maybe like 30 seconds, okay I just shrugged it off.

You know I use to shake my head when all those dysfunctional people were on the Jerry Springer show, and the dudes wife would say hey Ive been sleeping with this girl from work, but now we want you to join in. The guy would go nuts and want a divorce. Are you kidding me? Lets hit the fucking green room.

Our lifestyle the way we live is based on mutual respect, love and most of all caring about each others and our feelings.I can tell you this we share a great love that many cannot say.

So next time you call your girl a stupid bitch, yea think about me, or the next time your told you cant have any pussy think about me, or the next time you get in a heated argument, yea think about me. Maybe just maybe if you beg enough you may get a little head before sex.

I never I mean never judge anyone, not by who they are, what color, their sexual preference, or their kinks we are all human and we all have different needs.

So again tell me how bad Ive got it.

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Is Old Guard Real ?

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, Alt.com, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, Breaking Rules, Collar, Collarme.com, communication, control, controlling, Conversation, Discipline, Dominants, dress, Dress Protocol, Ego, etiquette, events, Gorean lifestyle, Gorean Master, Gorean Portocol, Honesty, Kink, kinkster, kinky, Leather Guard, Master, Masters, morals, munchs, Old Guard, Old Leather Guard, older Dominants, Open Minded, Private Protocol, Protocol, Protocol public, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, Self-Discipline, slave, submissive, TPE on July 24, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Many of the new today will argue that Old Guard is just a Myth, it never was and never will be. When in fact I do believe and have spoken to elders who were a part of Old Guard, in the late 60’s through the early 80’s

Old Guard refers to the leather community mainly the gay community. I myself am not into the leather scene, nor am I a part of any leather family since most have blown the protocol way out of text. In my eyes a lack of respect of what use to be.

Most of the Leather Family’s today are known as pansexual , you can google that. Unlike Old Guard, today’s Leather family’s welcome most anyone, without even really knowing anything about them. In the Old Guard days there were strict rules and Protocols to be followed. The Old Guard was a closed community and you had to become a member. Before membership was allowed one had to learn all rules and protocols and follow them, if not you got the boot.

Over the years we have strayed, we have lost the meaning of BDSM and it has falling more into just a kink, a past time, weekend warriors, bedroom only. Which is okay but the problem is everyone is right, no one is wrong. When someone hears how a slave or submissive lives they are just blown away and cannot believe they would allow someone to treat them a certain way.

It is not that a slave or submissive in today’s times are part of or believe in Old Guard, they just fall into their Dominants ways of doing things. Being strict, having rules, even protocols both public and private is perfectly okay, when there is no physical or mental abuse involved.

It is not that we take the lifestyle differently some are just more serious than others when it comes to the world of D’s and M’s. How Master Joe runs his house is on him, I do not and will not judge.

Back in the day a Dominant had to make his way through the ranks, there were steps that had to be taking. If a submissive or bottom had more experience than the Dom the sub out ranked the Dom, yea sounds weird. The problem is today’s Dominants want to start out as president they are right and everyone else is wrong.

Unlike today back in the Old Leather Guard there were dress codes, and they were enforced. Arianna and I have attended some local groups and I cannot believe they way some of the sub/slaves come dressed, more so the way their master allows them out of the house. Arianna has pointed out how mouthy some are, how she cannot believe how some disrespect their Doms.

Today it would be almost impossible to put together an exclusive group for meetings or teachings because of how BDSM  has branched out. Most groups come and go because of a dictatorship or just huge egos. Most people today are close minded when it comes to how others live as well

Old Guard when in a social setting it was the Dominant with the most experience who led the conversation, on the other side if the bottom had more experience they led the conversation, if equal the Dom was giving the go ahead.

When walking the submissive walked one or two steps behind, remember you are not equal in a sense. A Dominant would never think of hugging or shaking the hand of a submissive, nor would the submissive make direct eye contact, though the Dominant would. A Dominant would never think of touching another who was owned and collard, there was a respect thing.

Protocols is a lost art today, but what I expect if out in public a Dominant or Submissive should not assume anything. A Dominant should not just walk up to a submissive and strike up a conversation, they same with a submissive. It is however proper and okay to ask. Some couples have no protocols at all, nor do they wish to, this is where the lack of respect comes into play when it comes to what others believe. I have had people say they could never live like Arianna nor would they want to. What we have as a Master and Slave is very unique and special.

Old Guard when a Dominant was being served there were two ways, one palm out and flat drink on palm, the other the sub would kneel head down and arms extended making the offering. Depending on the protocol the sub could either leave or had to ask permission.

Those who play on the internet who belong to sites such as Collarme.com Alt.com BDSM.com and so on generally stay on those sites with very little real in person interaction, those who get lucky enough to find a submissive or Slave generally fuck it up because they have no real clue what a in person interaction is. It does not take long for the Submissive to realize they have been played. The so called Dominant will generally put the blame of the submissive when it comes to the relationship not working.

When I speak about myself at times I mention old school, and not old guard. Old School just means I hold certain values when it comes to the lifestyle, I give and expect respect. I set my life to a certain standard as I do with my Slave. I expect when out my slave is giving the up most respect and she will do the same in return.

So in closing I think we should all get back to the basics when it comes to the lifestyle. Yes we do need rules, yes we do need guidelines, yes we do need dress codes, yes we do need protocols. More so we do need to respect others.

Coming in at the top of those who truly live the lifestyle with the fullest respect are those of the Gorean lifestyle. If you should ever have the honor of meeting a Gorean Master or Slave you would be truly amazed. Old Leather Guard probably not since the lifestyle is based on a line of books, but the lifestyle is very strict and respected by many. I am not saying everyone should live the Gorean way, but if you study up on it, it will give you a way different out look and perspective of their lifestyle.

We should all come together as one, and set standards, keep the lifestyle proud, keep the fakers out. It could be done.

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You Can’t Fix Stupid

Posted in 128 Basic rules, 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Advice, anger, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, BDSM Safety, Beatings, blow job, Bondage, Consensual, control, controlling, Conversation, cum, Discipline, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Discipline, Dominance, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Fantasy, fuck hole, fucking, Giving Head, Humiliation, Kink, kinky, married, Married Dominant, masochist, Master, Masters, Mini Skirts, morals, No Inhibitions, No Panties, No Rights, non-consensual, On your knees on your back, oral, oral sex, Pain, Patience, punish, Punishment, Respect, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, Safe, Safe and Sane, Scared, session, slave, Spanking, stupid, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick, TPE, Trust, Whores, You Can't Fix Stupid on July 14, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Quoted by Comedian Ron White. You Can’t Fix Stupid. Yes that is the truth. There is no class you can take, nor is there a pill, stupid is forever.

Yea I know I rag on men pretty bad I suppose that is why 95% of my followers are women, single, married, dating, and yes confused. I do appreciate everyone who stops by to see what I am ranting over, sometimes I do get off track a little at times, mostly when someone does something stupid. Yea I rag on married men who have to cheat and step outside of their marriage because they cannot control their own home and put their bitch in place. They are scared to talk to their wives about there kinks, and needs, but for the most it is just a fantasy and nothing more it never does last to long. They end up going back home with their head stuck between their ass cheeks and continue to say Yes Dear. Pussy’s.

On the other side of the picture some men well most who are in a D’s or M’s relationship still do not fully understand what they have at hand. They have not a clue about how good things could or can be. They do not have a clue about how every fantasy, or dream, or a life of total bliss could or can come true.

Walk up to your Vanilla wife and say on your knees bitch suck my cock right now. Your going to get this stupid look like REALLY, are you SERIOUS?  Tell your Vanilla wife to strip and spread again that look, then here it comes you feel Stupid, again you can’t fix Stupid.

Men or those who are Dominant or claim to be , or who demand to be called Master do not have a clue about the possibility’s that stands before them. They know what they want but they are not sure how to go about it.

Then for what ever reason most believe or think that the lifestyle is about punishing, spanking, humiliating, degrading, and even physically hurting, and not looking at the mental aspects of what they are doing.

You broke one of my 128 rules bend over and take your punishment, I am going to beat you until you can understand my rules. I will beat you so bad you will think twice before disobeying me.

Yea it does not really work that way. The truth is a Submissive or Slave would not think of breaking a rule. The punishment in their mind is far greater than laying down and taking a beating. The Sub or Slave is more than willing to lay and take what you give, even after the bruising and yes some cuts. Which will most likely be there for weeks to come. Did they really break a rule or did you the Master change one up to fit your needs?

Submissive’s and Slaves thrive on making their owners happy, and will go through great lengths to insure their owner is taking care of. It gives the sub and slave a natural high knowing they have pleased. Even if it is a one way street they thrive on pleasing and the truth is they expect very little in return.

Here is the thing a Submissive or Slave is really looking for very little. Love , acceptance , communication, someone who is truthful. They are looking for guidance, structure, and most of all total understanding of who and what they are. As you can see the list is not really that long.

Most will allow the owner to have more than one, which you know in the vanilla world that would be a total no no. Most will allow you to pass them around like a bucket of popcorn with only the question in their eyes not from their mouths, a look of confusion, but yes most will do so just to please.

There are not many men who have the privilege of calling their woman their BITCH, again call your vanilla wife your bitch, and you get no pussy for two weeks. You can call her your whore, fuck meat what ever comes to mind, and if you wonder why you can refer yourself to what I wrote about what they are looking for.

So you have a woman, who will suck your cock at the snap of a finger, a woman who will spread and allow you to just fuck her without caring if she cums or not. A woman who will dress to please you, even when she does not feel comfortable wearing that mini skirt with no panties in public. A woman who will crawl on the floor like an animal, bark on demand. A woman who just truly wants to please their owner.

Yet after the above we still have those who have the need to abuse, be it physical or mental some still have the need.

We as Dominants are suppose to build up. Yes it is a fact that most who are submissive do have a low self esteem, not all but for the most it is true. So we as Dominants work to build up. We want to take all the hurt and pain away. We want to guide, we want ours to excel, we want to help with dreams, yes dreams can come true.

I believe most who are submissive will take what is giving bad or good. Most will except the pain, knowing they are being accepted. I just do not understand how a Dominant could not feel guilty after a long session knowing the submissive did not enjoy or get anything out of it.

It has been some twenty years now, my first was a total masochist and after the first session I was really scared and there was something inside me that just felt sicking. I had this load of guilt. Even the second and third session I felt guilty. Then it hit me the pain and humiliation is what she wanted and needed. Does this make it right? That would depend on who you talk to some see it as abuse and at times I saw it as abuse.

After our split it took me some years to realize that not every submissive was like sherri, not everyone needed the pain and humiliation. There were females in the lifestyle that were truly scared of me. What made this worse is other Dominants would praise me because of the recognition I had within the community. At that time it made me feel good but as I grew older and wiser, I knew that was not who I wanted to be known as.

We are all different, Dominants, Tops, Bottoms , slaves Submissive’s, and yes those who switch which I never understood. We all want different relationships, some of those who are submissive, only want to submit while in the bedroom, some only want to submit while at home. Then others want to give up full control. Some want to be punished, some want and need to be spanked and spanked hard, some do not want to be spanked at all. I myself am not physical when it comes to punishment.

As I stated the last thing a submissive or slave wants to do is break a rule. If they start to break rules they are acting out because they feel that they should be getting more attention and will do most anything in order to receive the attention they need even if it means breaking a rule.

I believe instead of being physical you can sit down and talk as adults, at times the submissive is looking for more to happen.

I just do not understand, you have a woman submissive or slave who will lay down and spread at anytime, really willing to do just about anything to keep their owner happy, and for what ever reason the Dominant has the need to abuse.

If anyone can figure this out please let me know, because after twenty plus years I still do not have a clue.

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Read My Lips. I do Not Share

Posted in abuse, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, control, controlling, Dominance, Dominants, infidelity, Master, morals, munchs, Pony Girl, Respect, Safe and Sane, sharing, slave, submissive on April 9, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I was really thrown back yesterday by who I thought was a good friend of mine. Her and I have known each other for several years, while I never fully understood her role in the lifestyle I just never had the need to ask. Sometimes a Mistress, sometimes a submissive, then sometimes I am really not sure. That does not matter I liked her as a person. Although I had not seen her in a couple of years we talked on the phone from time to time, facebook sometimes. At any rate I considered her to be a friend. I had not met her New squeeze he seemed pretty cool, a little older than I am by about 12 or 13 years, new to the lifestyle.

I ran a munch for her for a short time, and afterwards they had a play party, which I did not attend, but I did enjoy teaching. I was going to get with her yesterday and talk about the possibility of starting up a new munch, I know Arianna would like to help put something together and help out.

Here is the thing, I love eating pussy. While it is a fetish I do it on my terms. However I am not going to eat pussy after some dude has just fucked it. That is not going to happen.

I got a call and was told they were headed to the nude beach here, and asked if I wanted to go. Arianna was not home so I declined, but offered to let them stop by afterwards trying to be somewhat of a good host. So after the beach they were going to stop by. She was asking if Arianna was going to be home, I said I am not sure she had a doctors appointment in Orlando and I was not sure what time she would be home with all the traffic.

I had something come up and I had to leave, so I called and left a message, saying I had to go out, but Arianna and I would plan a trip over next week to see them.

I am driving and my phone rings, I answer it is her, I apologize , but told her of my plans. She said that was fine. I thought her new BF  and I would get along because we both had something in common, we both like Titty Bars. My way of thinking once you have seen one naked woman , I just want to see them all, although some not so much as others.

So the conversation continued, and she asked if I was willing to do a full swap? I said what? She said are you willing to do a full swap? Then she said if we are not going to play there is no since in coming over. Wow are you kidding me?

Okay let me get something straight. I am not a jealous man, I am not a controlling man, I am not an abusive man. I am however very possessive, I am possessive to the point I will hurt you if you cross that line. I will do what is needed to protect my own.

Second as you all know I am monogamous, I am one on one. I do not play with others. Why do you ask? I get everything I need right here at home, I get anything I need right here at home, and I do mean anything, anytime, anyplace.

I am not going to let some dude crawl on top of my property and bang her, I am surely not going to let her suck some dudes cock. My pussy is just that MINE.

That was the only stipulation Arianna had before we entered out relationship she did not want to be shared. She did say she was however open to another slave if we talked about it, she has been with other women but does not consider herself Bi.

So the only way we can visit is if I let her 62 year old boy friend fuck my slave, that is not going to happen. I may let Arianna dance for him and he can jack off, or let her tease him a little, but no one touches my girl.

When I first met her some several years ago it was at the Daytona Munch. At that time she was living with a pony trainer, who also had a 6ft transgendered pony who I called Mr Ed, and a smoking little pony girl who had a body built for sin. I could never figured out their relationship, and to be truthful I did not want to put that much thought into it.

Shortly after I started attending the munch they had a big fall out, I felt kinda sorry for the dude who owned the two pony’s, kinda wimpy, some bad stuff was going around about him, I did not know if it was true or not, again It was not worth my effort to find out if it was or not. He had asked me a couple of times if I would session with the Trans, and I was like um no, but I will take the other one home.

I am not a switch, I have never thought about being a switch. I am not bisexual. I am not against those who are to each their own. I do not care if you are gay, Bi, lesbian, we are all people. Just not my thing. I could never submit to another.

Some men enjoy sharing, some men get off on watching some dude bang their girl. That is not me. You can look, you can dream, but you will not touch. There are very few I will even allow to hug Arianna. A hand shake will do just fine.

So to be my friend you have to fuck my girl? Nah I just cannot see it

This is what I have been talking about as far as the lifestyle, almost zero respect. It seems everybody wants what someone else has. Just get your own Bitch. The lack of Protocol. The lack of caring, and today it is common for someone to just pass their girl around without a care.

Someone on another blog called me Old School being sarcastic. I am Old School and I am proud of who and what I am.

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