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Getting Personal With Me. Things You Did Not Know About Me.

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, 24/7, abuse, anal sex, bdsm, Coming Soon Vile Radio, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Dominant, Dominants, Drama, fucking, Germany, Helping Others, Living Poly, Living Triad, Love, Loyal, married, masochist, Master, Radio, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, sex, slave, Submission, submissive on July 7, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

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I was giving my nick name some 30 years ago while stationed in Germany, from this goth chick named Gretchen.

Music is an outlet for me, I love Yanni, I love Sarah Chang she is an awesome violinist. I love the rock band Cinderella, Tom keifer just has an incredible voice. I love KISS, but my all time favorite is AC/DC they just fucking rock.

I am very low Maintenance, meaning I am very easy to please. I never complain about food that is put before me, I never complain about clothes I have. I am probably the easiest man to get along with you have ever met.

I quit smoking January 1st after 38 years, two packs a day at 5.75 a pack do the math. I am still on the ecig. When I first started I was using 36 mg of nicotine, today I am down to 6 mg.

Those of you who could not guess I am a Libra, I am also a liberal although I have different views. If I were president, things would be much different.

I have a soft heart for those who are submissive and who are slaves. I enjoy helping people.
I have taking women in to my home and helped, and asked for nothing in return. Some did well after leaving, and some just fell back into the same ol same ol.

I love a good cigar, but since I stopped smoking , I am not ready for one yet…

I love fast cars, old muscle cars. Hearing the rumble,feeling the power.
I am not a mechanic, but some 20 years ago I had two 1972 Monte Carlo’s one was a rust bucket with a good motor, the other was nice with a blown motor. It took me all of 8 hours to change both out.

I love Blackberry Brandy, heated in the microwave for about 10 seconds. My favorite is Jack Daniels. I am a happy go lucky drunk, if I am going to get Hammered I listen to elvis.

If you listen to the Song A Country Boy Can Survive, that is me to a T.

I have shot two men in my lifetime , one was trying to car jack me with a knife, which is pretty stupid, and the other I shot in the ass while he was banging my girl. On that note I have never been in jail, nor do I plan on it anytime soon.
Warning if you try to hurt my family I will hurt you. If you break in my house, you had better be right with the man, because your going to meet your maker.

I fought the IRS without a lawyer and I won. That my friends is the truth. Just me oh yes my State Representative, why pay a lawyer when you pay taxes.

I handle things before they become problems, I do not allow any drama in my life.

I search out music that people have redone, other bands, or talent shows. Most of the music is better.

I like to be told I cant do something, I will prove you wrong.

I take the lifestyle very serious, I do live it 24/7. Arianna knows when we are not together I am a text or call away.

I do implement rules, my rules are not sexual, my rules are meant to help, meant to build structure. I do not believe you can have the same rules for different subs or slaves.

We I use the word train, that is exactly what I mean train. The first 90 days will rock your world.
Now speaking of training, you know Arianna and I have been kicking the idea around about adding another Submissive to our family.
Arianna is a Slave, she is a slave by nature, I am very firm with her, but I am fair, you may ask her. Her rules will be much different that the addition to our home. The submissive would not be held to the same standards , although the structure would be the same.

I do not like to be serious 24/7, the fact is no one knows when I am serious or not. I like to joke a lot.

I am very out spoken, this worries Arianna when we are out in public. When talking to others if I think your bull shitting me I will call you out.

I will never talk bad about another Dominant, by the way I do not consider fake dominants to be in that category, so those are fair game.

I live and walk by the truth, I have no reason to lie. A man lies when he has something to gain.

I get stressed as well , I just get quite, that is my thinking time. I never take my stress out on my partner.

It does not matter what kind of car I drive, in my thoughts it is my Jaguar. As I stated above I am not hard to please.

I am not a sadist, although at one time I was, my first slave was a masochist into humiliation. I did not have that need then and I do not have it now. Don’t break your toy.

I am an excellent cook, baking, broiling, or firing up the grill. When I grill I do not use gas. I love to cook and when I am off, I step in and help Arianna out. I know there are times she needs a break.

I am working on a book, Arianna believes there should be two. I am not doing it for profit, nor am I going to write Fiction, I wrote a story that was fiction and everyone hated it. I mainly want to reach out to those in need.

Vile Radio coming soon, this is going to be so much fun, my blog live on the Air……

That is about it if I happen to think of more I will pass it on..

Vile

BDSM Is Not About Sex

Posted in 24/7, abuse, anal sex, bdsm, Bondage, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominance, Dominant, Dominants, Dominants Protocol, Face Fucking, FaceBook Vile Woods, Fake Dominants, Love, Master, Master And Slave, Protocol, Rules, Security, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick, Train your slave on May 25, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I keep going back to this visual thing, how we as humans are visual , most of what we take in is through our eyes. If we just listen we only take in less than about 35% of what we actually hear.

Going back to the google thing if you google BDSM and click on images you see women being tied up, beaten, face fucked, anal sex just out right fucking.

If you google love  then click images you get the just that love. Nothing about beating submissives or slaves.

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If you google BDSM a whole new world opens up to the eye.

Image This is where the visual comes in. Don’t get me wrong, I love bondage, I love fucking, I really get off on face fucking. I love the fact than any time I want anal sex it is there no questions asked.

If your doing a math problem but the problem is incomplete, there is noway you can finish it, the problem goes unsolved, so it is never completed.

If you enter the world of BDSM and you do not have the whole math problem your relationship will never be complete, and you spend most of your time if not all trying to figure it out.

The part of the math problem that most leave out, and this is more for the younger Dominants, the novice Dominants, but more so the fake Dominants. There are major parts of the problems that will never get solved, and in the end you will lose every time. The younger and novice Dominants in time the problem can be completed, but your talking years of trying to solve different problems.

The BDSM images leave out a lot of information. and it shows one side to the lifestyle, and one side only, and that is abuse.

What it does not show is the structure we as Dominants provide, the security we provide, the trust we provide, the rules and protocols we put in place. It does not show the communication we so much need or want.  The images do not show the stability we provide. Most important it does not show the love we have for ours.

It does not show the hours we put into training the day months we put into training. It does not show how we as Dominants take care of ours.

Our eyes can be very misleading..

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So The Universe Gave Us A Dominant

Posted in Advice, anger, bdsm, BDSM Collar, Collar, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Dominant, Flogger, Love, Loyal, Patience, Punishment, Rules, Safe, Safe Word, slave, submissive, The Universe Gave Us A Dominant on March 3, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

The Universe looked down one morning and clearly saw the submissive was lost, so the Universe gave us the Dominant.

The Universe said I need a man who can work a 50 hour work week and still keep his home in good running order, so the universe gave us the Dominant.

The universe said I need a man who can be very loving, but strict when needed, and be able to control his temper and emotions and still remain strong, so the Universe gave us the Dominant.

The Universe said I need a man who can implement rules and give structure , and make the home feel safe, and offer security with open arms. So the Universe gave us the Dominant.

The Universe said I need a man who can talk on all levels, interact well with others , and offer his wisdom when needed. So the Universe gave us the Dominant.

The Universe said I need a man who is good with rope, one who is able to tie a knot and do it well, a man who can be artistic while exploring the world of bondage. So the universe gave us the Dominant.

The universe said I need a man who knows how to spank, and do it well, so the universe gave us the Dominant.

The Universe said I need a man who is as strong as a Bull , a man with the memory of an elephant , the wisdom of an owl, A man with enough knowledge to fill a terabyte hard drive , so the Universe gave us the Dominant.

The Universe said the submissive needs a leader, someone who is understanding, caring, loving, a man who is clearly in control, and not controlling, so the universe gave us the Dominant.

The universe said I need a man who will put his submissive first no matter what , so the universe gave us the Dominant.

The universe said I need a man who will take what he wants but give much more in return, so the universe gave us the Dominant.

The universe said I need a man who is skilled with a flogger, and know that spanking is meant to be erotic , so the universe gave us the Dominant.

The universe said I need a man with a clear understanding of the true meaning of a collar, a man who knows a collar is earned and not giving. So the universe gave us the Dominant.

The universe said I need a man after hours of play who will provide aftercare, so the universe gave us the Dominant.

The universe said I need a man who can stand tall and not back down, a man who can debate with the best and still remain calm, cool , and collective, and walk away proud no matter the outcome. So the Universe gave us the Dominant.

The universe said I need a man who will hold his submissive when things do not go right, a man who will provide positive reinforcement, and make everything alright. So the universe gave us the Dominant.

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The Power Of Control

Posted in abuse, Arianna, bdsm, being used, Change, commitment, communication, consequences, consistent, control, Lies, Love, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, owning a slave, poly, Protocol, Rules, sex, slave, submissive, sucking cock on February 5, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Here lately I have been speaking about the M’s side of things, and not so much the D’s. I believe the D’s side is so far away from the M’s in real life that is.

Although with the right control it could be much the same. How we act, how we talk, how we walk, and how we give direction. Most of all how we keep our word.

Once a submissive or slave gives you the map you need to follow, if you the Dominant follow the map it will begin to unfold. This allows you to touch on different areas. This also allows growth , this allows the two to become closer.

When the two first enter a relationship you both come to an agreement. You both make it clear of what is expected. What will be allowed and not allowed. So we have to stay on that track. Well into a relationship if one tries to change things up, you only two things that could happen. One the other could go along with your idea, or two you could lose what you have . That is why we have to think about choices and consequences.

I blogged about poly the other day, and while Arianna and I talked in depth about the possibility’s, the good and the bad. It would not be advantageous to either of us. I suppose in someways it could help Arianna, mainly freeing up some of her time, but in the long run it would really accomplish nothing.

Then our relationship Master and Slave, Micromanaged , being able to remain consistent , that would really put a great burden on me. So that would mean I would have to take away something, and the end results can be bad.

You can add to the relationship, you can add rules, you can add protocols , you can add pretty much anything you want, and if you remain true to your word the Sub / Slave will follow without question, but the minute you start taking things away, the outcome could be not so good. You can add, but you cannot take away. Think about that.

So adding a third well something has to be taking away, and to try and renegotiate our relationship after making it this far, could be bad.

Now if the right one came along, and Arianna was able to bond with another Slave and she brought it up, I may consider but the fact is, I am not sure I could handle another.

The power of control we do not see it because we live with ours everyday. To snap a finger and they follow, tap on their head and boom your getting your cock sucked. Being able to just tell someone to spread. Telling someone they are owned property. That is a lot of control. The truth is it is more control than what most deserve.

You can play the game, and the game can last forever, the thing you cannot do is change the rules during your play. You have a set of plays you have shared. You can add but you cannot take away. To do so is not fair to the one you have control over.

Most when one sees the submission come into play, the submission is giving to them. Their brain goes completely wacky. Their mind is racing a hundred miles an hour. Now the game becomes about abuse, and mostly mental. You have now taking something away, because you are no longer the Dominant you told them you were. The fact being you lied. You might as well just slapped her, kicked her it has the same effect.

I have said this before if a bitch is going to lay on her back and take what you want to give. What you give back should come back 100 times more.

The end result if you play the game right you can have anything you have ever wanted. I am not speaking about sex. You can have the most incredible partner, who will walk through life with you, through good and bad times. You will have someone who will stand by you no matter what. If you take things away, then there is a possibility they may think twice before walking that path with you

I am not sure if I really said anything or not. It was just on my mind.

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Vile

What Makes You A Submissive

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, Argue, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Safety, Be who you are, being used, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Discipline, Dominance, Dominants, Fake Dominants, fuck meat, Giving Head, Love, masochist, Master, Master & Slave, Patience, Respect, rimming, Rules, sadist, Safe, Safe and Sane, Safe Word, Security, slave, Slave no rights, Structure, submissive, Submissive Brat, sucking cock on January 23, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

That question should be looked at long and hard. You are going to step into a whole new world. You are going to go places you have never in your life thought of. Your going to be treated like you have never been treated in your life.

There are things you need to think about before taking that step. Reading about BDSM is totally different than living it, or acting out.

What makes you a submissive ? What makes you think your a submissive ? Why do you have the need to serve ? Why do you need rules ? Would you really follow them ? Why do you need structure ?

Those are things that should be thought out before you begin your search. Again here comes the list things all of the above should be on paper and you should be able to answer each and everyone.

Then comes the hard part. Finding the new Dom. That will probably be the hardest task you will ever come across in your life. Because now you are going to spend a great deal of time weeding out the fakes. This will take you at least two or three relationships. Then you have to weed out those who think they are Dominant but they do not have a clue. Then you have to weed out the real ones. You have to pick out the one who fits like a glove.

Maybe your looking for a Daddy Dom , maybe a regular Dominant what ever that maybe, Maybe your looking for a Dominant who is a sadist, or a Dominant who is more into the discipline part of the lifestyle. Maybe your a Masochist, not every Dominant can fill that role,. Maybe your a Brat, again not every Dominant can fill that role.

The above should go on a list as well, and you should be able to answer each and everyone with a clear understanding of what the differences are. What role each Dominant plays.

What type of relationship do you want ? This falls under all of the things above. How do you see yourself living as a submissive on a daily bases ?

What are your limits ? What are some of your limits but in time you may be willing to try ? Never be afraid to express yourself, never be afraid to tell someone what your limits are, and they had better be respected. Never be afraid to tell someone if your limits are crossed you will walk away.

Remember you are a submissive not a slave. You still call the shots. You still have the right to say what will happen and how. You are submissive not a slave.

Make sure your Dominant keeps his word. After all the first thing a Dominant will tell you is to always be honest, and truthful. Why would you not expect the same respect in return.  If you are promised a call, a visit, a text, flowers, a birthday card, then that is what you should get.

Let me get something straight you the submissive are replaceable , that sounds really cruel, but I am sure most of you have been there at some point in your time. You were dumped without notice, no calls, no emails, no text, your calls were ignored. You were replaced.

The same goes for a Dominant he is replaceable as well. Many men fail to look at that side of the picture. When you enter a relationship you need to plant that seed. You were looking when you found him. You need to stand up for yourself, there is nothing wrong with making sure you get what you need and want out of life, and a relationship.

You are a submissive you say when you will submit, and how you will submit. Most who are in a D’s relationship do not even live together. I did not say all I said most. So why would you as a submissive submit to someone who cannot be truthful with you, or they cannot keep their word.

I am giving you a males point of view, because I have been that asshole, I have used, I have abused. Before the mule kicked me in the head, most of the women I saw and fucked were just meat, and nothing more. Most were just cum dumps, with a functioning cock sucker. I could care less what happened once they walked past my front door.

If you think I am the only one who thinks in this manner if you have dyed your hair blonde, you need to run to sally’s and dye it again and fast

So I sit here almost on a daily basis, giving advice. I am giving good advice. You can call me stupid, you can say I do not know what I am talking about, shrugs I could really careless what someone thinks of me.

It is not impossible to find the right one, it just may take a little more time than your willing to invest, but if your willing to invest more time, it would cut out a lot of heartache , and drama that you do not need.

Limits are very important. You have limits in place for a reason. Maybe you don’t like anal sex and you don’t care to try it. Maybe you refuse to RIM, maybe you don’t swallow , no matter the case you need to share your limits and explain that they will not be crossed. Why because they are replaceable.

The Slave factor is a total different story. Arianna is not into pain. Being a sadist at one time, I still have those tendencies, but I respect her way to much to hurt. That is a limit I have, hurting my toy. With the exception of pain and a few others that are normal, Arianna has no limits. That was something that was discussed when we first met. I covered each and everything in great detail so there were no questions. The only answers giving were Yes Or No. Apparently she answered more yes’s than no’s because she is still here , and will be for many years to come.

If your in a relationship and you have to step outside of your circle to ask for advice. Guess what? Your in the wrong relationship. You do not have the communication within your circle to make it work. That means you never had the freedom to express yourself, or your feelings. Now comes the replace part.

You can ask Arianna about the past Dominants she has met, more so the ones she has met while with me. She can see a clear difference. She will tell you how many times her ass was beat and left black and blue, the pain she endured. So there is more than just you who are having or have had problems. Guess what ? Arianna replaced them. You can do the same.

If you are not getting the attention you deserve, the communication, the play time you need. The you need to open the dictionary and look up the word replace.

You can make your search very simple, or you can drag your life through the mud. You can be relaxed, or your life can be full of drama. You have to decide what side of the fence you want or need to be on. Your the one dealing the cards.

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I Own You

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, Collar, Consensual, control, Dominants, Love, married, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, mistakes, No Rights, owning a slave, Protocol, Punishment, Respect, Rules, slave, Slave no rights, Structure, Submission, The perfect Slave, TPE, Vile on January 22, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am not Master alone you call me Master out of respect. You are not a Slave alone, I call you my own. You are mine you have chosen to give yourself fully without question. Upon my return you kneel with great pride and respect. You kneel because you have the need.

I am Master because you are my Slave, without a Slave I am but only a Dominant man. I was a Dominant man in search of a partner who would complete the man I am, the man I needed to be.

I was lost, I was not complete , I searched for the one , I searched for the one who would fill that empty void, the empty feeling deep inside.

You were a lost Submissive who was seeking much more, you were lost in every sense, you were confused, and no where to turn. Then you were guided to me.

June 15th 2013 you married me as the sun rose standing on the beach, you excepted my ring of love, and the gift of my collar, and I thank you for both.

Owning you comes with great responsibility now I must look out for two. The mistakes I make now effects both and not just one.  I now must take the steps to improve our lives in the home and out. I must take great care when making decisions. I must do what is right for both Master and Slave.

You have giving yourself without question, and I see daily how proud you are to wear your collar, public or private. You are a Slave and you walk with great pride.

Your collar is locked just like our love for each other. Our love and respect for each other will continue to grow, our M’s relationship will continue to grow.

I feel everyday we are as one, while we are apart I feel as if something is missing from deep inside. It is only replaced once I am home and I hold you, only then do I feel complete.

I own you Arianna, and I do so with great pride, and Honor. When I walk through the door and you are kneeling I look and I am thinking there is my wife, my slave my property. I own you. You as a Slave have adapted to my way, you follow without question.  You are my Slave. You have giving up all rights, you are now able to be free. I own you.

You follow my rules with a great need and passion, you follow my protocols without question, you have excepted punishment without question. You have giving yourself to me. You are my Slave

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What A Submissive Needs

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, anger, Annoyed, anticipation, Baby Girl, bdsm, communication, consistent, control, Dominance, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Kink, Love, Loyal, Married Dominant, Patience, Respect, serve, sex, slave, slut, submissive on December 13, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

We all need someone the key is to find someone who fits our need. To find someone who is willing to take the time to understand us and where we are coming from. Someone who enjoys doing the same things we do, places, movies, food, vacations. Then yes the almighty Kink, the Bondage, play time, pleasing and being pleased. It is not a one way street.

To be successful in any relationship we need to have more than one thing in common. If sex is the only thing in common your relationship will be short lived, and who is going to take the blame? The submissive will, the submissive is always the reason why the relationship did not work. She was a fake, not real, did not want to put the time or effort into the relationship. I was not the right Dominant for her.

Remember a submissive will adapt to your way of life, your surroundings without question. So it is only fair we put in the time that is needed.

In a relationship a D’s relationship a Submissive does not ask for much, in fact probably less than the Vanilla girl next door, or your wife. Yea I had to throw that in, I despise married men who cheat. Total scum.

A Submissive is looking for acceptance someone who will take them as they are. Someone who will except them not only for them but for the kinks that lay deep inside, someone they can communicate with on all levels.

Someone who is truthful , someone who respects what he has, someone who is there at the drop of a hat. Someone who will communicate on all levels.

Someone who can control his temper, someone who does not have anger issues , someone who is drama free. Someone who is not abusive, verbal, mental, or physical.

We as Dominants all have pet names, My Bitch is my favorite, my pet, baby girl, my whore, the list goes on and on. If you have these little pet names and you get angry you should never use these names in anger. A black eye will go away words do not. Words cut much deeper and they almost never heal.

The above is what is needed and what is not wanted. It is really a pretty simple process if the Dominant is willing to devote the time to insure the relationship works.

So what does the Dominant get in return, well anything and everything. You have a submissive who has giving you everything. Mind and body some say soul I just find that hard to chew.

The submissive really does not ask for much nor do they need much. We put our arm around them and walk. We walk them through life, we guide them, feed them, we nourish them with love and respect. There love and devotion will grow and continue to grow. The more they grow the more they love, respect and then comes the trust.

You can take a submissive and mold them into pretty much anything you want, and they will follow. It is not a hard task.

Love what you have and the love will be returned many many times over.

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Vile

I Am Me

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Advice, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, blog, Bondage, Collar, communication, Consensual, control, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, events, Giving Head, Humiliation, Impact play, Kink, kinky, Lie, Lies, Love, Loyal, Master, Masters, munchs, needy, oral sex, sadist, Safe, Safe and Sane, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on December 6, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

In he past I have posted a little about who I am but I never have gone into any great detail. I have been into the lifestyle for longer than I can remember this dates back into my teens, before I even knew what BDSM was all about. Even in my teens I had the need to be in control.

I grew up in a very small town in Northern Georgia my 8th grade class had 23 people in our graduation. Going into high school it was somewhat bigger but total 9th 10th 11th and 12th only had about a thousand kids so compared to today’s school it was small. I played baseball in elementary and high school. I was a relief pitcher. I was only good for 2 or 3 innings though due to my side arm throw. At the age of 16 I was throwing 86 MPH so after a few innings my elbow would swell.

I was popular with most of the guys, but I cannot say the same about the girls , due to my sexual behavior. At that age I enjoyed bondage, face fucking, anal I was game for pretty much anything. It was a control things.

I caught onto life pretty fast I grew up in an abusive home, and both parents were addicted to pain medications, and of course alcohol. The one thing I learned on a daily basis is I was not going to be like them. To this day I could never figure out why they argued. My real mother has since past but my father is still living and we have somewhat of a good relationship. I have one brother who just turned 46 I am 51 by the way. Him and I talk often but have only seen each other maybe 3 or 4 times in the past 15 years.

I have never really been into drugs although as a teen I tried to smoke all the pot in the world but they just grew more so I lost that battle, I have never done any hard drugs such as cocaine , I am not big on pills , but I do have a drink from time to time. Every now and then I will get sideways but that is far and few.

I learned about the lifestyle shortly after I joined the Army and was stationed in Korea, and even then I just happen to stumble into it. I was introduced to an old man named Kim who lived with 5 slaves.

There is a huge difference in the lifestyle than in the US. In Korea a Slave would have nothing to do with a Dominant or Master unless she knew who trained you. Since the lifestyle in Asia is so underground it is probably still the same.

Once back in the states I was still young and dumb, but I had a couple of things on my side. I no longer had a temper, I was very calm, and I knew how to get into someones head. All of the sex, face fucking, ass fucking meant nothing but now I had a weapon that was very effective.

So for many years I spent most of my time just using, I would get what I wanted and just toss to the side and look for the next. This went on for a number of years. To me a long term relationship was a three day weekend, much more past that I was just bored.

One thing I did learn and it can be good and bad, I learned from an early age to speak my mind, If I thought it I said it. Another thing I learned was to observe people, I am a people watcher. What I learned from watching people is how I did not want to live.

So I have had several long term relationships, but have only been in what I would call love maybe 3 times in my 51 years. That is not a very good track record. In between up until a couple of years ago there were a couple of times I settled for less that what I needed and wanted, knowing it was not going to work, but I am human.

How you see me on here is me, once I log on and I start a new post I do not change. I am the same at home, in public, at work or at a local munch, I am me. I never try to be someone I am not.

I remember several years ago and this is what hit me, I was at a Chinese buffet with a friend and another friend showed up with a date, and when he said hey Vile whats up I asked them to sit down and join us and his date was just starring at me, and finely asked if I use to live in these apartments and I said yes. She actually started trembling and told her date she wanted to leave. She was truly scared of me. On my way home Animel and I were laughing at her, but once home I mixed a jack and coke and I was standing outside on the river bank and I started thinking. Wow if she was scared of me just how many more feel the same way. Then it hit me being feared is nothing to be proud of, that is not how I wanted to be known as.

So I put a plan together, I was going on a Vile clean up campaign. I was going to be my own public relations manger. I was going to clean the story of Vile up.

I became more active in the community. I started doing a lot of speaking, dating more, changing up my way of playing, putting my sadistic nature to the side, and before I knew it I was back in the game, I was back in the hunt. I was no longer feared I was very respected in the community, today even more so.  So a year later standing outside looking over the river drinking a jack and coke, I thought to myself well done Vile you did the impossible.

I was still missing something though and I could not put my finger on it, then I was at Bush Gardens one day and I saw all of these family’s walking by with kids and I said that is it man you need a wife and a kid. So off I went 3 months later I was married and a short time after she was pregnant. We lost our first son to a heart transplant he was 18 days old. By this time I had enough of the vanilla life and I had to get back to being me, and wow she was pregnant again. So I stuck it out for another 3.5 years then I had to come clean about who and what I was.

Now I was married for nine years to the most vanilla woman in the world, the sex was horrible, she could not suck a dick to save her life, and no ass fucking. I said you are killing me here. So after I came clean she agreed to let me move a Slave in, yea baby , but she was only an in service slave, NO SEX. My ex-wife was a horrible house keeper, she could not cook, and clutter everywhere. So I moved this bitch in and she went to work. A week later spotless house, meals cooked every night, my lunch packed kids off to school, picked up this was the life. So my ex gets jealous and says you both have to go. Let me think okay I am out of here. I told the salve hey its been nice love ya go back home.

I have a very good relationship with my Ex wife, there is no drama, Arianna and her get along good, my son likes Arianna. So now life is good.

So when I log onto wordpress I am me, this is who I am. If I were to try and be something different what would people who read here think of me. I tell the truth , I live by the truth.

Many have asked for advice and when I tell them what they do not want to hear, most get mad. If I told everyone what they wanted to hear where would that get you ?

I do not want you to agree with everything I post, or the way I believe, the way I think. My post are to make you think, my post are meant to be objective.

Much of my blog is about safety okay so Ive had a change of heart over the past several years. I speak on safety because you as a submissive or slave can get fucked up, you can get hurt and hurt bad. Most do not think before entering a relationship. More so the new who are entering the lifestyle. You do not listen until it is to late. You want what you want and you want it now. It does not work that way

So the next morning when you wake up and your bruised from head to toe, or something is broken, you can think back, yea Vile told me, and I did not listen. Bondage is no game and if you get some dude that does not have a clue to what he is doing, you just may not wake up the next morning.

Most new Doms are into hard impact play, again if he does not know what he is doing he could break sometime, or even worse while spanking and he hits to high and to hard, you could lose a kidney. BDSM is not a game you can get fucked up. Bondage there are many no’s. You can damage tendons if tied to tight. Remember that when you meet a Dom for the first time and he brings his little travel bag and he is totally clueless about what he is going to do. Yea take his word when he says oh I have been in the lifestyle for 20 years. Are you really going to take his word ?

The first thing I did when Arianna and I agreed to enter a relationship was to introduce her to people I knew in the lifestyle people I had known for years. There is nothing like the feeling of being safe.

Keeping your girls safe is what the majority of my blog is about, it is up to you if you listen or not. Again why do you think that over 95% of the 236 followers are women and there are so few men ?

I am not here to put other Doms or Masters down. I am not here to say I am better than your Master, because I am not we all have our own way of living.

Being a Submissive or Slave is not about being on your hands and knees scrubbing the floor, doing laundry , cooking or cleaning house. Being a Slave is not about being passed around like a dog, unless that is your kink, if so then go with the flow. Being a Slave does not mean your stupid, or you cannot think on your own. You are human, but a Human with different needs.

Slaves are needy for the most as with those who are submissive. You should not have to change who you are. I like needy myself, I like my Bitch to hang all over me. If your Master excepted you the way you were then he should not try and change you.

I share things because I want you to see what kind of relationship you can have, a relationship filled with love and respect. A relationship where you are cared for. A relationship filled with communication, then you add all of the kink.

You do not have to put up with drama, you do not have to put up with lies , you do not have to put up with abuse, arguing the list goes on and on. Before a Slave or Submissive you are human, you have feelings, you have needs and they should be met. If they are not speak your mind and if things do not change, fucking leave.

Why would a Master argue with his Slave ? Who is in charge at this point ? Why would you allow a Master to Slap you around ? degrade you, humiliate you in anger, call you names out of anger. Why would you allow such things ?

You as a slave or submissive has the right to be happy treated with respect, you do not needs someones drama brought into your life nor should you bring your drama with you.

I put a lot of work into my relationship 25 hours a day 8 days a week 366 days a year. I take care of mine and only mine. I am there through good and bad. I am there when Arianna gets emotional . My time is dedicated to her and only her. I am not looking to add to my house. Because I get anything I want when I want.  She would never think of saying NO. Be it sucking my cock, fucking , anal anything. Why ? Because I go above and beyond to insure she is taking care of. She knows that not matter what she comes first. That is the way it should be.

Be who and what you are, and make sure your Master does the same.

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It Is Our Responsibility

Posted in 24/7, A Masters Creed, abuse, Acceptance, anal sex, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, blow job, Bondage, Collar, Collars, communication, Consistency, consistent, control, Discipline, Dominants, Emotions, It Is Our Responsibility, kinky, Love, Master, molding your slave, Patience, Respect, Rules, serve, session, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on December 4, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

The Slave is going to lay on her back , the Slave is going to suck your cock , the Slave is going to do most if not all of the cleaning, cooking, laundry.

You the Dominant are going to spend hours upon hours playing do what you like most and maybe touching on something the Slave enjoys but for the most it is about us.

We change their whole life , the way they talk, sometimes the way they walk, we impose rules that we would never follow ourselves. We give out protocols that must be followed. In some cases we choose their friends, Although Arianna has friends in the lifestyle I pick and choose. Although the last couple of friends have been a bad choice on my part I do make mistakes.

In the lifestyle our world of BDSM I have never met so many fake people in my life, male and female. I have never met so many bullshitters in my life, and what is really funny is when I know they are bullshitting and I just go along with it.

The thing is it is much easier to just be who and what you are, and you know what ? No matter how bad you are there is someone for you.

We as Dominant have very high expectations , I myself have very high standards , but sometimes you can set your standards so high your quest for a partner is just not obtainable. Then at times you lower your standards so low knowing it will not work, and you know this already but it is mainly for the companionship. The only time this is wrong is when you just use someone until something better comes along.  I myself have a conscious and feelings when it comes to just using someone for my personal use. I am not saying I have never settled for less because I have and yes knowing it was not going to work, but we are human we need than interaction. When it was my time to go I just left, it was not until I found someone better.

There is a creed we are suppose to live by, we are looked up to not only for comfort , not only for guidance , not only for love, not only for structure , not only for companionship , not only for communication , not only for the rules , not only for the kink. We are suppose to be their for ours 24/7 no questions asked.

A Slave does not ask for much , most Slaves are content with just being loved and cared for. Our creed we live up to our responsibility’s . We have to show we are who we say we are. We as Dominants have much more to prove , than the Slave does.

A Collar is earned, a Collar is just not giving just for the sake of owning someone. Then if that is the case it really has no meaning. You set out your plan your training. Tell what you expect and what it is going to take to earn a collar. Set goals and make sure they are followed through with. Once you decide to collar your Slave if she excepts it that is. Explain why you want to collar her, explain the meaning of the collar, explain your meaning of a collar, but most important explain what it takes to keep it.

We have a Responsibility to keep our word, to be who we told them we were.  to guide and protect. We teach what we have learned. We set our Slave up to excel not to fail. We listen and support their ideas, we listen and we communicate. Most of all we put ours first no matter what.

If every man, would just man up and be truthful he could have so much. It is the Slave who makes the Master, but it is a good Slave who makes a good Master, a Slave wants to see her Master excel as well and if the two work together the road never ends.

A Masters Creed – Author Unknown

As it is often important and often even necessary for one human being to have certainty and a clear understanding of the intentions, desires, motivations, and needs of another, I offer this testimony in trust and sincerity.

I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel more intelligent or wiser.

I am not dominant because of the strength or the mass of my body.

I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women.

Yet, to you I am Master.

I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind, and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor. You are a woman. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend, and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt.

Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts. We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We complement each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.

You are sure, strong, and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a man. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man. In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because I have earned your trust. Because I have opened my heart and soul to you. Because I have listened to your word with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; you have given me dominance over you. What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural, and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift.

I recognize it is your body, mind, and soul. I dominate you only because you have allowed me to, and when I see your body kneel before me in my mind and heart, you are raised above all other women and all the treasures of the earth.

Within the bounds of our relationship…it is my duty to protect you, and that you will know, that under my care; NO harm will come to you as a result of actions taken by Me..or you. That is my responsibility, to protect you..from yourself if necessary. What you give freely cannot in reality be bought.

We as Dominants should have to live by this without question.

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Maybe I Am Not The Right Dominant For You

Posted in 24/7, bdsm, Bipolar, communication, Conform, control, Depressed, Depression, Discipline, Dominants, emotional, Love, Master, Molding, needy, owning a slave, Protocol, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, Sane, Self-Discipline, slave, Submission on September 6, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have heard this statement before not to often but have heard it in the past. I can say the only time I have heard it is when the Dominant has to put a little effort into the relationship.

A lot of subsmissive’s or Slaves come with some baggage, I did not say all but some do. Be it past relationships, maybe they suffer from depression, it could really be a number of things. As we enter the relationship we do not enter it blind.

When a submissive or Slave first meets a new Dominant for what ever reason they lay their whole life out on the table, giving up to much information to soon. I am not saying don’t be honest but you should wait a while before you let someone totally into your life.

If you have been honest and upfront with your new Dominant then he does not come into the relationship blind he has a good idea what he is getting into. He then comes up with a plan of action on how to handle things. If a Submissive or Slave has baggage that I will call deep, meaning maybe they suffer from depression, maybe bi-polar which seems to be common, maybe there is a link maybe not, but for an inexperienced Dominant to enter such a relationship is not a very good idea, maybe he should just bow out gracefully, instead of just jumping into the water.

We are not knights on a white horse. We are looking for the same thing, a true commitment , a partner. We cannot fix you, we can offer advice and guidance from past life experiences , we can offer communication, love, and understanding.

It is wrong for a Dominant to enter a relationship knowing there may be some hurdles and not be willing to stick it out. What you do in the end is cause more damage.

I have a friend who is in the same situation he entered a relationship knowing everything. His submissive has on going health problems, suffers from depression, among other things, but he was willing to take the next step.

While in the relationship he was looking for another submissive, his dream to live with two women. To each their own I have done it. It is not all that, and many more problems can pop up. It works for some, while it does not work for others.

So he has bitten off more than he can chew. The words were I love you but maybe I am not the right Dominant for you.

Okay those words face to face run deep, I cannot imagine after a year someone hearing these words. She does need a lot of care, he knew this, she does require protocol he knew this, she does require rules, he knew this, she does require structure again he knew this. She is somewhat of a Masochist he knew this. So he did not enter the relationship blind.

A good Dominant is able to conform to most any type of situation. A good Dominant is able to guide, and lead. It is wrong to lead someone on, and just walk away when the fire gets to hot.

So you have to spend an hour of your day contributing something to the relationship, so you have to spend time making sure your rules are followed, the task you have giving for the day, an hour a day out of your precious time.

Your getting everything you could ever want, without question, but a few hurdles come up then your ready to leave. Wow your going to leave because it takes to much of your time to put a little into a relationship . Even in a D’s or M’s relationship it has to be give and take. You cannot take and take and take and not be expected to give anything in return.

So man up , this is the way it is going to be, my way or no way. I run this fucking house and this is what your going to do. Choices and Consequences.

What happened was he found someone who he thought would fit in their little family, then his submissive had somethings going on, a few hurdles, now he thinks the grass is greener on the other side. The truth is once you jump the fence and your not willing to put any effort into the relationship, you are going to get the same results.

Although I have been Dominant for as long as I can remember, being a Dominant 24/7 is no easy task. It can be mind boggling , confusion at times, but we must never show that we may have concerns or problems. We must show we are in full control at all times. We must show we are a leader in private and public, we must show we are honest and we live by the truth no matter the consequences. We have put a label on our self, now we have to stand tall and show just how we are and what makes us this way.

Saying the words Maybe I am not the Right Dominant for you, shows weakness, it shows you are not in control, or you just do not care.

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